"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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This girl has a bf what should I do?

Stone_Island_95

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So there was this girl I had class with last semester who was giving me sings of interest such as looking at me and at times turning around to look at me, small smiles , etc. I never made a move or talk to her because I was focus on this other girl so I end up ignoring her and she stop giving signs so it was too late

Recently I bump into her at campus and notice she will start walking slow when I’m around her, and recognized me. The problem is she has a bf I saw them together last time walking around campus. Wednesday I saw her waiting for class sitting down outside, she saw me from afar but as I got closer she turn her head away. Should I talk to her or ignore since she has a man
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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RedScorpion

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You can talk to her if you wish to, but I wouldn't put much effort or interest into it. Women (and men) I think tend to flirt around a bit more while in a relationship - generally not crossing any lines, but getting that feedback of attraction. Enjoying the sense of flirtation and whatnot (which is fine I think, if not crossing any lines).They can do that because there's no real risk on their part. They have someone already at home and they're 'safe' that way. Of course, some will cheat to varying extents... but rarely will actually break up with their SO for the person they cheat with. Definitely not relationship material at that point - as if they'll cheat on them, they'll cheat on you too.

Back to the main point. You're more than likely looking at a dead end to varying degrees. Imo, you're much better focusing on a girl that is single, and not investing in someone that is already in a relationship. Personally, I've been caught up in a few heavy flirtations with girls in relationships... doesn't end pretty. Some guys can pull it off if they're completely emotionally detached - but the girl is operating at a different angle than you (her in a relationship and you being single). It can be a head trip, as you can think 'Oh, there's something going between us' - and she heads on back to the bf.

So, if you see a convenient time to talk to her, sure go ahead. Get some rapport going, build an acquaintance or some kind of friendship out of her. She might become single later on. But I would never consider her as a real prospect. For your own sake.
 

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So there was this girl I had class with last semester who was giving me sings of interest such as looking at me and at times turning around to look at me, small smiles , etc. I never made a move or talk to her because I was focus on this other girl so I end up ignoring her and she stop giving signs so it was too late

Recently I bump into her at campus and notice she will start walking slow when I’m around her, and recognized me. The problem is she has a bf I saw them together last time walking around campus. Wednesday I saw her waiting for class sitting down outside, she saw me from afar but as I got closer she turn her head away. Should I talk to her or ignore since she has a man
I don't think there is anything wrong with talking. Go on, socialize. Who knows, that guy may be her brother, cousin, uncle or ex. You'll never know until you ask her. Good luck mate.
 

Stone_Island_95

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I don't think there is anything wrong with talking. Go on, socialize. Who knows, that guy may be her brother, cousin, uncle or ex. You'll never know until you ask her. Good luck mate.
It was her bf they were holding hands, I think I'm going to just talk to her get her comfortable and exchange contact info. If she breaks up I hit her up or she does.
 

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Tell her to get in touch with you if it doesn't work out with him, then move on.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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