this girl at work

[titoman]

There is this girl at work, we get hired at the same time, so we had some rapport going. She seemed very interested in me, i always catch her staring at me, and i wink at her and stuff, you know the usual stuff, anyways i was planning to ask her for phone #, but then on her lunch her "boyfriend" came in (i was caught off guard lol i had no idea" then apparently he just bought her a sweater and when she came back she was telling me and one other guy how she's getting spoiled by her boyfriend, and how he always buys her stuff... anyways should i still chase her and ask for email or phonu number or just give it up....

 

[DonJuanMonk]

Well, you can always jump off the bridge.

 

[Alphathree]

Chase?.. her?

You have much ... to learn... young... jedi..

 

[DJohnson]

FIRST

You work with her, you let her make explicit moves on you, not the other way, unless you want to get punished.

SECOND

You don't chase a girl ever. You become an attracive man, you date other chicks, and then THEY chase you. I know that is hard to get, but yes, get to a certain level in terms of your peronsal growth and attitude and THEY do the chasing.

THIRD

She isn't flirting. Getting a new job is stressful for anyone, especially a girl. Don't read to much into her "staring" and "smiling". Just take it in stride and be cool. Give subtle hints that you are a cool guy who has fun, and has friends, and also dates other women. This is THE workplace plan.

 

[Tomb]

Excuse my laughter. HAHA

 

[thederekeffect1]

Excuse me for not laughing.

Here's my input:

First of all, I disagree with DJohnson with one thing. Considering that you both just got hired, and you're both the new people around the working environment, she has no reason to be staring at you. If she were only concentrating on her work, don't you think she'd be watching the more experienced workers?

Give it a few more days. Just to make sure. If you still have a good feeling about this, go ahead and ask her for her phone number OR ask her if she wants to do something after work (If you plan on dating a girl you work with, talk to her enough while you're at work, and things run smoothly you can actually skip the phone number stage at working environments and get that later). There is no harm in asking... You can't get fired for asking for a phone number or if they want to do something after work. But that's about as far as it can go.

Just be warned about the negatives to dating a girl you work with. If things don't run smoothly, it can cause trouble in the working environment that doesn't just effect you. It effects everyone you work with.