ThaRealnez, you make valid points...
This is an online forum you can only help people if they go out practice what you preach to them. I for one get tired of seeing people basically console people who we all know are hopeless.
Encouragment and consolation are two different things. I agree with you 100% that you shouldn't console people in the forum who are not trying. But it's not like you should tell them they are hopless and that they might as well give up. The only way that anybody could be hopeless is if they MAKE themselves hopless...THAT's what I would tell them.
Success is different things to different people. Not everyone can be a chick-magnet, no. But that's not the only form of success.
When someone comes in here and he's 40 years old and never been on a date before..why would you lie to him?Don't tell him it's gonna be easy cuz it's not. I don't care if he goes back to his basement to cry about it.It's the damn truth stop lying to him and other people like it's "nothing to get women,bruh" cuz it is not.
I agree. I never suggested that anyone say that it would be EASY. In fact, I suggested that it would take discipline and effort, but I DON'T think that it is our responsibility to tell anyone that they shouldn't even TRY, because then WE'RE being hopeless. Just because something is pessimistic doesn't make it realistic.
I see it with people who are insecure about theire height,penis-size,looks,age,status,car,apt,job,etc..stop lying to them just to make them feel better,if you think you're helping them then you're mistaken.Women are insanley shallow they do care about all that.Giving someone FAKE confidence won't help with REAL problems.
Nobody is saying anything about 'fake' confidence. There's not really such thing as fake confidence. 'fake' confidence is NO confidence. An AFC is mainly an AFC because he is WAY too concerned about whether a woman sees him as WORTHY of interacting with her or not. Women don't do the choosing here, WE do. Of course, THEY have the power to determine what they do about your choice, but we're the ones who do the initial selection.
So if a woman ditches you because there was specific aspect about you that she disliked, that is certainly not a guarrantee that ALL women will ditch you for the same reason. Women don't all have the same tastes. What one woman may hate about you one woman may love about you. Confidence comes from being happy with who you are and knowing you are worthy of a woman's time no matter what other people think. Becoming a DJ isn't about becoming the perfect guy for every woman, because that will never happen. Ever. No matter who you are. But true confidence is about being aware of your flaws, but knowing that you are a catch in spite of their exsistance.
Let's make this is a place for real and expereinced DJ's-Players-PUa's share info and give eachother pointers.Not a place that's run by wussies and wannabe's who come to nag real players to death.
But just because
you're naturally good with women doesn't mean that everyone else is. This forum is to help those that are willing to do what it takes to become as successful as we are, and just because somebody is a DJ doesn't make him better than anybody else in this world.
If someone with potential ask a legitamate question I'll help him.But I'm tired of all these weirdo's and headcases clogging up the place with girly b.s... it's bringing down my game.
Everybody has potential, it's just that some WORK with it, and others do not. But we don't need to be judging who somebody is as a person simply based on what they post on these forums, so it isn't our place to tell somebody that they will never succeed with women.
Look, I'm not saying to hold these guys' hands or do the work for them. Nor am I saying to spoon-feed them, but what I AM saying is to STOP telling them that they CAN'T do it.
CAN'T isn't in a DJ's vocabulary, so let's stop trying to put it into THEIR's. If somebody asks a stupid question and you don't want to answer it or whatever then just IGNORE it and let them find out for themselves. There's no need to waste your time and energy telling them that they will never succeed.