My only comment for the OP will be this thread from 2002.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=16893
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=16893
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I'll be damned, I'm surprised that anyone else thought about this too. I thought about this when it started and didn't think it would be very beneficial, almost like post counts (there I said it). I turned off the ability for people to give me points soon after it was turned on.Falcon said:Since there is already a lot of negativity in this post, I'm just going to jump to the offering some possible solutions part. You wanna know something that will improve this forum? Kill the rep system. That's right. Ever since someone got the second green square under their name I swear the behavior of this forum changed in an instant. Like some weird power struggle or something. ...
Eh, I don't know if I would call it communism... I'm just making a case that it serves a redundant purpose and possibly distraction. I mean anybody who stays here for a month or two will get a good idea of who writes good posts anyway. Isn't that already 'reputation'? This forum seemed to be working fine when no one payed attention to the rep system. Not only that, this rep system can be skewed. I for one have already seen the "rep me and I'll rep you" type of mentality. To me, that just creates a false representation and a distraction from the goals of this site. I hope it's a very small percent of the posters who see this as some rep race (because I know there are some out there), and if they do, hopefully they wont forget why they are really here.KontrollerX said:Some forums remove all status symbols such as posts and whatever else. Everyone is then equal but since I hate communism and a forum looking boring I can't support this idea of yours. Plus I like how we've got choice here to disable rep or leave it up. Under a communist system the choice is made for you.