My only comment for the OP will be this thread from 2002.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=16893
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=16893
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I'll be damned, I'm surprised that anyone else thought about this too. I thought about this when it started and didn't think it would be very beneficial, almost like post counts (there I said it). I turned off the ability for people to give me points soon after it was turned on.Falcon said:Since there is already a lot of negativity in this post, I'm just going to jump to the offering some possible solutions part. You wanna know something that will improve this forum? Kill the rep system. That's right. Ever since someone got the second green square under their name I swear the behavior of this forum changed in an instant. Like some weird power struggle or something. ...
Eh, I don't know if I would call it communism... I'm just making a case that it serves a redundant purpose and possibly distraction. I mean anybody who stays here for a month or two will get a good idea of who writes good posts anyway. Isn't that already 'reputation'? This forum seemed to be working fine when no one payed attention to the rep system. Not only that, this rep system can be skewed. I for one have already seen the "rep me and I'll rep you" type of mentality. To me, that just creates a false representation and a distraction from the goals of this site. I hope it's a very small percent of the posters who see this as some rep race (because I know there are some out there), and if they do, hopefully they wont forget why they are really here.KontrollerX said:Some forums remove all status symbols such as posts and whatever else. Everyone is then equal but since I hate communism and a forum looking boring I can't support this idea of yours. Plus I like how we've got choice here to disable rep or leave it up. Under a communist system the choice is made for you.