"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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This chick I know

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Ok, there is a long story behind this. I have known this girl for about 6 months now, but have actually been friends with her for about one or two. We met at school, talked alot, ect. For the last month, we always hang out in the morning, flirt, ect.

On the last day of school, I was walking around with one of my friends. Then I see her, she called me over and asked some person to take a pic of us. I was surprised, because I never really talked to her any time other then during the morning. Then I introduced her to my friend, ect, and she followed us. My friend went to some other class to leave us alone. We talked for like 5 mins, then my friends called me over. I went and the girl came with me. She knewsome of them, so no introductions were needed. We chilled for like half an hour, then this girl's friends came up to us and told her to go to one of their classes. She asked me to go with her, so I did. Then we just sat in the class and watched a movie, me and the girl flirted alot, she grabbed my thigh, ect. After school was out, she hugged me, and we went home. Also, we exchanged phone #'s and sn's. (Note that on last days of school, students are free to chill and walk around classes on campus).

In a week, she calls me up on a sat night, we talked for like an hour and she asked me if I could hang out next friday. We did hang out and had fun, flirted a lot.

Its been a month now since this happened, and i REALLY want to ask her out but wont do it for the following reason: I think she considers me more of a nice guy, which I kind of am, and she would just want to be friends with me and reject me.

I act masculine, talk about stuff guys talk about like sports and working out, ect. But a recent phone call from her got me thinking that she considers me a friend and not a potential boyfriend. I have been really nice to her though, but only after we became friends. This leaves me confused, because if I ask her out, she might distance herself from me and we wont be friends anymore. But if I wait too long to ask her out, some other guy will and I will really regret it. So do i just say "f*** it" and ask her, or do I want for further signals?

Also, she is kinda hot, and has a great personality.
 

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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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We're in the dark as to WHY exactly you think you're in the friends zone. Anyways, you can get on another path if you act quickly.

Secondly, you won't know anything until you try. She is just a horny little girl so there is no friendzone involved. Ask her to a date and do what you gotta do.
 

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I haven't read this post at all except for the title and the "There's a long story behind this...". There's been a million and half posts just like this on these boards. You have oneitis. Forget about her for now and find some other girls. Click on that little link on the top of your screen to read the bible while you're at it.

-Dan
 

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Dude, if you don't ask her out it will huant you for the rest of your life. Cuz once she does get a b/f in the back of your head your going to be wondering..."hmmm I wonder if that could be me."

Its better to know than not to know, besides if not you can still be friends. You said she was cute? She will have other cute friends I assume. Its a win win situation, good luck!
 

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Hmm yeah, il see what I can do. Right now im cutting her off to see if she calls me, if she doesent, il find a new girl.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Its been a month now since this happened, and i REALLY want to ask her out
What do you think happens when you stop acting? Magic and she comes home running to you? Are you daft?

Get up and go get the damn chick. Don't try using techniques you don't understand because you won't be able to use them right, or at all.

Now get the hell out of your basement and run upstairs to the phone.
 

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First of all, you ruined it when you talked to her for an hour on Saturday, and agreed to the date SHE layed out for the both of you. Though you can reclaim your glory slowly if you try hard.
 
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Kiss her my man. I'm pretty sure she wants you to, and the longer you take the smaller she'll think your balls are. The next time you're flirting together, move in and give her a peck on the lips. If it looks like she likes it, then carry on. If she says "What do you think you're doing? I just want to be friends." Then say you're cool with it.

Be nice to her and things, but don't hang out with her as much. As long as you're not all pushy about it, and put it behind you. The two of you will still be friends. The only time she'll cut you off and act weird is if you get all clingy and stuff. So just show her you don't need her. If she sees you flirting with other girls, she'll realise you're over her and will still be your friend and things will return to normal. Trust me, I've been in the EXACT situation before. It will work.
 

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don't fawk up like I did..don't fall in that friendship relationship crap either or your screwed like me. Ask her out now or your gonna end up like me....sad...

Good luck
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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