Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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This chick called me "kid."

Gatorade

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One of my girl friends calls everyone kid.......It's just the way some people talk.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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canadianmetalhead said:
i would say you over-reacted, she was just being playful. it wqas a mistake so i woud just play it off like it was nothing, dont bring it up unless she does
This. I once had this broad calling me kid (except I am younger than her) and just let it slide, i felt a lil' offended at first but i gave no reaction whatsoever and got good results. Do nothing, it does wonders.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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If a chick calls me a kid, I let them know about it. I might not get pissed or over react but I let them know through my words and actions that they have insulted me. In my opinion, if someone insults or belittles you, you don't have to put up with it. Either don't be with persons like that or let them know about it.

However there are situations where someone calling me a kid could probably be fine, but there would be never romance involved.
 

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It's not that big of a deal. I've had a girl call me kiddo through text before... I was like wtf for a second but after, I really thought nothing of it, and said nothing to her about it.
 

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lol
you are a kid who has no self confidence

big johnny use to beat your ass in the school yard before and call you kid? lol
 

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I let your immature remarks go past this being an internet forum.

It really comes down to situation and the way the message is percieved. But, in my opinion, if someone you want to be romantically involved is calling you "a kid" you are in a bad shape. If I would call you "a retard" would you let that slip too. It could be said in a funny or uninsulting way yet it would still send a message which in my opinion is not "innocent".

and btw, I have only never been bullied a bit by older students and never the ones same age as me. Once some kid was laughing behind my back in a lecture and I went straight to him and told him to stop. He never did it again. Quess I'm immature but I don't have to put up with anything I don't like.
 

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Heh, one of my co-workers once called me "son", I was like, "Aww, thanks ma, you're the best!" It was pretty funny.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Next time a girl calls you kid, tell her "that's right, when are you going to babysit me?"

Bring on those rep points... my inner game is starting to shine.
 

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I think donG. has a good point. (Sorry, didn't notice the page jump.) I mean, sure you over reacted, but it was a **** test if you think about it. The girl probably was baiting for some reaction and at least you responded proper. I used to have a GF who was like a 9.5 and she used to pull this crap on me all the time, but in VERY subtle ways. (like asking if the 'little boy' liked his...[whatever.]) Lucky for me, I usually missed it and looked like I didn't care what she thought. When I did catch though I always turned it into a joke at her expense rather then mine.

But now, your goal should be either to accept it, or try to avoid it. If she brings it up tell her you had an awful day, and it was all her fault. Which can be used for real good teasing material, tell her some outlandish story about how your dog died, you lost all you money gambling, and that you couldn't stop the doom ray today, and your super powers are starting to fade with age... Then it seems funnier then whats gone on. Or you simply diffuse with an apology and "lets move on" as everyone else said.
 
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