Blue Phoenix
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jul 23, 2004
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Good man!
HEy grey fox you're right!
To be a target you have to seem innocent. It's irresistible to them.
They're so used to manipulate the others that they don't know that they can be easily manipulated!
The only way to deal with them is:
1. To use their own game, I mean manipulate them. They're craving for compliments/adoration, so you can use this to control them.
"To catch the sucker play the sucker" - 48 laws of power
"Always conceal your intentions" - 48 laws of power
"The mirror is the best weapon! When you use the same strategy of your enemy, she can't notice what the well is going on!" - 48 laws of power
Those quotes are fantastic in defeating the narcissist/histrionic/borderline and other vampires out there!
Seem happy to them
Don't pay attention to them
Seem innocent to them
They'll be dying to mess with you!
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2. To ignore them!
Indifference is absolutely your best tool in dealing with the NPD. They HATE indifference. Do not react in any way to anything she says or does. Any reaction, good or bad is supply for them. Any response you get will not be real, merely another attempt at manipulating the situation. Do not let her do that. It's what she wants. Somewhere to place the blame, and to make you feel as bad as possible.
"You are going to have to be stronger than you've ever been to block her… block e-mails, get caller ID. Se will not give up easily but you know you can't afford to have her in your life. Her denials and excuses will only confuse you more".
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"She will strike when you least expect… she will lure you in with sweetness and tricks, and when you are feeling hopeful… she will bring you down with one cruel perfectly-timed remark… and you will crash in heartbreak again and again".
"The N has no feeling of any kind, you must absolutely remember that. Any 'feelings' or emotions shown are like those put on by an actor on stage. They look good, but are only an act."
"In order to overcome one's enemy, one must study diligently to understand how she came to be your enemy, what her motivations and goals are. Fully understanding your enemy and then rational planning based on that knowledge is the only way to emerge the victor. We are learning about those with Narcissistic PD, Antisocial PD, Borderline PD, Histrionic PD, as well as those with Sadistic and/or Masochistic PD - the psychopaths in our lives, learning to defend ourselves against their destructive forces and how to avoid them in the future."
HEy grey fox you're right!
To be a target you have to seem innocent. It's irresistible to them.
They're so used to manipulate the others that they don't know that they can be easily manipulated!
The only way to deal with them is:
1. To use their own game, I mean manipulate them. They're craving for compliments/adoration, so you can use this to control them.
"To catch the sucker play the sucker" - 48 laws of power
"Always conceal your intentions" - 48 laws of power
"The mirror is the best weapon! When you use the same strategy of your enemy, she can't notice what the well is going on!" - 48 laws of power
Those quotes are fantastic in defeating the narcissist/histrionic/borderline and other vampires out there!
Seem happy to them
Don't pay attention to them
Seem innocent to them
They'll be dying to mess with you!
.........................................................................................................
2. To ignore them!
Indifference is absolutely your best tool in dealing with the NPD. They HATE indifference. Do not react in any way to anything she says or does. Any reaction, good or bad is supply for them. Any response you get will not be real, merely another attempt at manipulating the situation. Do not let her do that. It's what she wants. Somewhere to place the blame, and to make you feel as bad as possible.
"You are going to have to be stronger than you've ever been to block her… block e-mails, get caller ID. Se will not give up easily but you know you can't afford to have her in your life. Her denials and excuses will only confuse you more".
........................................................................................................
"She will strike when you least expect… she will lure you in with sweetness and tricks, and when you are feeling hopeful… she will bring you down with one cruel perfectly-timed remark… and you will crash in heartbreak again and again".
"The N has no feeling of any kind, you must absolutely remember that. Any 'feelings' or emotions shown are like those put on by an actor on stage. They look good, but are only an act."
"In order to overcome one's enemy, one must study diligently to understand how she came to be your enemy, what her motivations and goals are. Fully understanding your enemy and then rational planning based on that knowledge is the only way to emerge the victor. We are learning about those with Narcissistic PD, Antisocial PD, Borderline PD, Histrionic PD, as well as those with Sadistic and/or Masochistic PD - the psychopaths in our lives, learning to defend ourselves against their destructive forces and how to avoid them in the future."
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