"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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third date: go feed the ducks

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hello.

is it lame to go to a nice park and feed the ducks etc?


Thanks.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It is if you think it is.
If she likes being around you then what should it matter what the two of you are doing?
Just be enthusiastic and have fun with it.
 
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Well, when coming up with a date idea you want to try for a couple of things:

First of all, what you don't want to do is make her think that this date activity is being done for the sake of her. You want her to think that it's being done because you want to do it, and that she's just along for the ride. If you can make her believe that you're feeding the ducks because you want to feed these ducks and aren't doing it for the sake of having a date activity with her, then go for it.

Secondly, and perhaps more obviously, the date activity must be fun for her. Personally I do not think feeding the ducks (with maybe a picnic thrown in) is all that fun. It will probably just devolve into a date based around conversation and devoid of any action... and it's best to avoid those. It's boring and stressful for both parties to continuously keep up conversation. When one-on-one it's best to aim for some sort of action date. Go play some pool or something. Even a movie date would be better.
 
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