"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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third date: go feed the ducks

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hello.

is it lame to go to a nice park and feed the ducks etc?


Thanks.
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

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It is if you think it is.
If she likes being around you then what should it matter what the two of you are doing?
Just be enthusiastic and have fun with it.
 
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Well, when coming up with a date idea you want to try for a couple of things:

First of all, what you don't want to do is make her think that this date activity is being done for the sake of her. You want her to think that it's being done because you want to do it, and that she's just along for the ride. If you can make her believe that you're feeding the ducks because you want to feed these ducks and aren't doing it for the sake of having a date activity with her, then go for it.

Secondly, and perhaps more obviously, the date activity must be fun for her. Personally I do not think feeding the ducks (with maybe a picnic thrown in) is all that fun. It will probably just devolve into a date based around conversation and devoid of any action... and it's best to avoid those. It's boring and stressful for both parties to continuously keep up conversation. When one-on-one it's best to aim for some sort of action date. Go play some pool or something. Even a movie date would be better.
 
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