Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Thinking We Should End Things...

foomee

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Today is the 11month anniversary of my girlfriend and I. We met last year, we go to the same college and we've had our ups and downs the past few months. The other day she wanted to end things because I was flirting pretty heavily with a girl I sit next by in my Jan Term class. My girlfriend is in the same class. She has a psychologist whom she sees every week due to a car accident and memory problems, I don't notice a difference though. Anyhow, she comes up to my dorm a few minutes ago and she tells me that she talked with her psychologist about us and that if things continue or don't change, then in 3 months we should end it. My suitemate comes in and says something and she starts crying, we all thought it was fake but I guess it was real. She leaves and she calls me from her car saying that she never wants to come up to my dorm again and she never wants to go to the snow on the weekends again, etc. etc.
We're supposed to have dinner tonight after she's done babysitting, so I ask her if we're still up for dinner, she says she doesn't know. So I'm guessing no.

I don't know if I should just end it now... or try and sort things out.
Yesterday when I was flirting with the girl, we were on the phone that night arguing, complaining, just in an emotional frustration, both of us. It was horrible.
I'd love to sort things out... I can handle these little arguments which I think are blown out of proportion, but I don't think she can handle them. We've had stuff like this happen in the past and it's worked out in the end.

What would you guys do in this kind of situation?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I-am-someone

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Ah, sounds familiar.

How would you feel, if she started to flirt heavily with another guy right in front of you? Dude, you can flirt with other women, but there are rules to that.

- If you flirt heavily (which you did), don't do it when your girl is around, wait until she's gone.
- If your girl is there, try to include your own girl into the flirting.
- Give her a chance to compete! She'll see you flirting, and try to get you to stay away from her.
- Make absolutely sure that the flirting is not too sexually oriented. If she sees you flirting and you clearly have sex on your mind, then it's a big no-no, unless you're in an open relationship.
 

spider_007

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-Flirting with chicks when you have a comited relationship is retared
-having a exclusive relationship with someone you don't want to be with in a exclusive relationship is equaly stupid.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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