"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Thinking about moving....

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Here's the deal. I don't think my buisness model is large enough to sustain me in this small town. I'm slowly dying over here, I'm spending all of my time chasing after little freelance gigs both locally and online. I don't have any time to date, the women I do meet are either to trashy,ghetto, single moms looking to settle down, rich girls or married women out on the prowl for strange.

I just got off the phone with my brother who has some opportunities lined up for me in Atlanta. I have no doubt that I could do well, but honestly I sort of like the small town life and I have no desire to move to a major metropolitan area.

On the upside, there is work there and there are tons of single women. On the downside, my daughter will be a 7 hour drive away. She's the reason I've stayed in this town for so long. Things are just coming to a head because the money is just not there for me. Have any of you guys been in this type of situation before? How did you handle it? If things don't turn around in the next 2-3 months I think I'm going to have to move regardless.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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bradd80 said:
What's the access arrangement with your daughter as it now stands? Do you get along with the mother?
I get my daughter two weekends out of the month and we rotate holidays every year. I usually get her for about a month in the summer if I can make the proper arrangements. I haven't spoken to her mother in nearly 5 years. Her jealous boyfriend and her mother sort out all communication and travel arrangements, they live about an hour from my current location.
 

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Thanks. I'll probably be moving, my roommate informed me that he's taking a job out of state in a month if he gets hired on, so I'll be forced to move anyway as I can barely cover bills as it is. Things just keep going from bad to worse. I got 99 problems but a girl ain't one.
 

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Dear Warrior,
Seems you are between a rock and a hard place.....Bradd has it right....But things never stay the same for long and opportunities are everywhere...I must say having my two daughters close is very reassuring for me...we all need a support system!
 

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Move to where there's money to be made. It's nice to be close to your kids and have a cozy feeling where you are, but you have to take care of yourself first. Make money and become stable.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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