Thanks for the feedback everyone. Like others have said, some really great advice and invaluable perspective in here. Really appreciate it.
As of now, I'm leaning against doing anything, partly because some of you have gotten to me with your very dire warnings and partially because I'm not quite prepared to face the inevitable ****storm that would ensue, which perhaps is not a good reason.
A few more thoughts though as I continue to ponder this:
- My wife chose me. I did not choose her. We met in college and she first approached me to ask about classes. I suppose I was charming enough in that first interaction to pique her interest and she started texting/calling me. Sure, I was interested as well but only to the extent that any guy would be interested in any cute girl; she was not my type. In the end, she was actually the one to call and ask to hang out. To be fair, I would have eventually made the move as well, but only because she signaled her interest so strongly and I was anxious to get some dating experience, plus she was cute.
- I have never approached a girl / asked a girl out / been in the game. Prior to meeting my wife, I had my heart broken after being a total AFC towards a female friend who I thought I was in love with. That's when I found the Book of Pook and started working on reforming myself, but my wife came along before too much progress was made. I still wish I could continue the journey to becoming a true DJ, pick up multiple girls, fvck lots of different women, etc. I regret not ever having had the chance to develop that part of myself.
- My wife was born and raised in a different country, moving to the States when she was in her teens. I know many of you seem to value foreign chicks, but personally, I've always preferred American girls. Yes, she is perhaps more submissive, which I don't care about, but she is also overly reliant and needy. She wants to spend all our time together and hates it whenever I do anything without her, especially if there are other women present.
- Isn't settling for a woman whom I didn't choose and whom I don't truly love, out of fear of not being able to find someone better, trading freedom for security? I continue to be baffled that most people are telling me to stay. Isn't part of being a DJ having the confidence to walk away knowing that you can always find another woman you want?
- We don't have a prenup. We are still fairly young so don't have too much in terms of assets, but have accumulated a decent amount in savings. I had assumed that these would just be divided evenly upon a divorce but perhaps I'm being naive?