She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Sadly, sometimes your gutfeeling is correct as mine tend to be. So it is a bad sign. But it is still not proof positive. It is also normal to like multiple people, it just deepends who you like more. As long as you continue to built on this relationship, don't have to sweat it. As long as she doesn't start hanging out with him more than you, you are ok. If you suspect she has cross the line with him, then you simply have to decide if she is worth keeping.SkillzthatKillz said:
Normally I agree with you DonS but not this time.DonS said:
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Saying she can go for other guys sounds AFC. Perhaps it's just the way you stated it but it sounds like "oh I want you to be happy, as long as your happy I'm happy, even if that means you're riding another guys dinger, as long as your happy I'm happy". PUKE!SkillzthatKillz said:
Man,your whole mindset if off. You need to read what you just wrote and imagine if some other guy was saying it. It sounds like an afc talking. You sound insecure,self-doubting,and unconfident. Look at what you said. You say that you have told her many times that if she wants to go for other guys and if she's not happy with you she can walk. It's as if you keep saying that to her hoping that she'll reassure you that she's not going anywhere. One of these days you're going to say that to her and she's going to take you up on it. Don't believe me? Keep saying it.SkillzthatKillz said:
Dude,what's the deal with this? You asked why shouldn't she go for him. What,is there something about him that makes him better than you? Is there something about you that makes you worse than him? It's almost as if you're somehow encourging her to dump you for him. You say she's very good looking,therefore she can have any guy she wants. Well,what if that guy is you? Is that ok? Is it ok if out of all the guys she could have,she chooses to be with you? Or is that just too hard for you to believe?SkillzthatKillz said:
This is why I think many guys can't handle dating a really hot girl. Hot women are going to be approached daily and many times each day. They are going to get attention from men everywhere they go. What's more is they are accustomed to that attention. They learn to expect that attention and have their life made easier in many small ways because of it.Igetit! said:
Outside of a nightclub? Not really. Most people will just stare. Even in a nightclub, if you spot the really hot bartender (hired to be hot), she'll probably only really get hit on directly by like 1 out of 30 guys. Watch next time you're out, the number of guys that will actually directly hit on a hot girl is low, like 1 out of 10 if that.
Two problems:
AFC has become a term used in the community by geeks to label other people who aren't in the community. AFCs tend to be the regular guys with social skills, tons of female friends, and a life.
Chances are if he's good looking...
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
TAKE THIS REAL ADVICE:SkillzthatKillz said:
OK I guess I was a little harsh, and I apologise for that but your case for him being an AFC was (still is) quite bad.SkillzthatKillz said:
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
