Me "girlfriend" was invited to come over on tuesday night( she stayed with me monday night) she said she would come over thurs. night( she has relatives in town)...i feel like she is trying to run the show....be the boss so to speak..opinions please....thanks
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Think im gonna say " ill let you know" opinions please
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
dont see the problem here at all. you said one day, she couldn't do, countered with another. confused why this is a problem - i'd just see her the thursday (unless i actually had other plans, in which case, it would depend)
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^This.mahoney said:
I understand your concern, but I think you're reading too much into it.
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I disagree with my esteemed brothers. You might have a problem here, but it's hard to tell.
How long have you been seeing her? I'm assuming not long at all. Does she show other signs of bossiness?
There is a reason that you're sensing something and writing about it here. But it all depends on how she is saying things. Did she say, :I have relatives in town. Do you mind if we get together on Thurs?", or did she say, "I have relatives in town. I'll see you THursday instead.".
It's all in the delivery.
How long have you been seeing her? I'm assuming not long at all. Does she show other signs of bossiness?
There is a reason that you're sensing something and writing about it here. But it all depends on how she is saying things. Did she say, :I have relatives in town. Do you mind if we get together on Thurs?", or did she say, "I have relatives in town. I'll see you THursday instead.".
It's all in the delivery.
If the information is only what you are saying...dude, get a clue. Sometimes people have families, friends, and lives that don't involve you. Especially if they are just a "girlfriend" with quotes.teachme said:
If you go boss on her it just may come across as needy, as if you must see her all the time and don't have enough going on to sustain yourself for a couple nights.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
....thanks...ill work on this