Me "girlfriend" was invited to come over on tuesday night( she stayed with me monday night) she said she would come over thurs. night( she has relatives in town)...i feel like she is trying to run the show....be the boss so to speak..opinions please....thanks
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Think im gonna say " ill let you know" opinions please
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
dont see the problem here at all. you said one day, she couldn't do, countered with another. confused why this is a problem - i'd just see her the thursday (unless i actually had other plans, in which case, it would depend)
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^This.mahoney said:
I understand your concern, but I think you're reading too much into it.
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I disagree with my esteemed brothers. You might have a problem here, but it's hard to tell.
How long have you been seeing her? I'm assuming not long at all. Does she show other signs of bossiness?
There is a reason that you're sensing something and writing about it here. But it all depends on how she is saying things. Did she say, :I have relatives in town. Do you mind if we get together on Thurs?", or did she say, "I have relatives in town. I'll see you THursday instead.".
It's all in the delivery.
How long have you been seeing her? I'm assuming not long at all. Does she show other signs of bossiness?
There is a reason that you're sensing something and writing about it here. But it all depends on how she is saying things. Did she say, :I have relatives in town. Do you mind if we get together on Thurs?", or did she say, "I have relatives in town. I'll see you THursday instead.".
It's all in the delivery.
If the information is only what you are saying...dude, get a clue. Sometimes people have families, friends, and lives that don't involve you. Especially if they are just a "girlfriend" with quotes.teachme said:
If you go boss on her it just may come across as needy, as if you must see her all the time and don't have enough going on to sustain yourself for a couple nights.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
....thanks...ill work on this