Me "girlfriend" was invited to come over on tuesday night( she stayed with me monday night) she said she would come over thurs. night( she has relatives in town)...i feel like she is trying to run the show....be the boss so to speak..opinions please....thanks
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Think im gonna say " ill let you know" opinions please
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
dont see the problem here at all. you said one day, she couldn't do, countered with another. confused why this is a problem - i'd just see her the thursday (unless i actually had other plans, in which case, it would depend)
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^This.mahoney said:
I understand your concern, but I think you're reading too much into it.
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I disagree with my esteemed brothers. You might have a problem here, but it's hard to tell.
How long have you been seeing her? I'm assuming not long at all. Does she show other signs of bossiness?
There is a reason that you're sensing something and writing about it here. But it all depends on how she is saying things. Did she say, :I have relatives in town. Do you mind if we get together on Thurs?", or did she say, "I have relatives in town. I'll see you THursday instead.".
It's all in the delivery.
How long have you been seeing her? I'm assuming not long at all. Does she show other signs of bossiness?
There is a reason that you're sensing something and writing about it here. But it all depends on how she is saying things. Did she say, :I have relatives in town. Do you mind if we get together on Thurs?", or did she say, "I have relatives in town. I'll see you THursday instead.".
It's all in the delivery.
If the information is only what you are saying...dude, get a clue. Sometimes people have families, friends, and lives that don't involve you. Especially if they are just a "girlfriend" with quotes.teachme said:
If you go boss on her it just may come across as needy, as if you must see her all the time and don't have enough going on to sustain yourself for a couple nights.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
....thanks...ill work on this