Think I'm Gonna Drop This Girl

[onemorerobot]

I'm just getting a little tired of her ****. I called her yesterday to see if she had to work today. She said she didn't and I told her that I got off at 3 o' clock if she wanted to hang out. She said "sure!" I told her I'd call her whenever I got out of work. I call her and she's at some restaurant and tells me she'll "probably" come over tonight. Probably? I'm sick of all these maybe's and probably's. She calls me back when she's done eating and asks me for the time, then tells me she'll be over in an hour or so. Give me a ****ing break.

 

[ClassAct]

Dude, she's just pulling game on you, the exact game you should be pulling on her. She's dragging you along for the ride, and if you keep complying with her, she'll lose interest very soon. You don't have to next her just yet. Just get your message across. When she calls back, tell her another friend called and spontaneously made plans with you, so you can't hang out. Don't let her know who it is. Let her assume it's another girl. This should momentarily pique her interest/emotions, but you got to keep along these lines for a little while before she starts devoting herself to you. BUT whatever you do, make sure you maintain COMPOSURE. Don't let her know you're bothered by her actions. Just work on shifting control of the situation.

 

[onemorerobot]

That's exactly what I've been doing up to this point. I don't make any contact with her and then she calls me and wants to hang out. But whenever I'm the one trying to make plans, it becomes such a ****ing hassle. She has all these friends and it feels like she's trying to find some way to make me "fit" into her day.

 

[realsmoothie]

If it happens all the time, maybe you should next her. It's an obvious sign of disrepect (when SHE does it, of course).

 

[CraigMack]

Why don't you just start being upfront with her and forget the game playing. That whole not being available thing isn't all it is toted to be.








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[ClassAct]

Yes, if this is a consistent thing, nexting would be the easy solution. But i don't think it would hurt to bring a few more elements into the game. Even if you have been keeping communication minimal, you're still too available when she calls. It's almost like a form of passive desperation. Much more subtle than active desperation, but nonetheless desperation. Be as busy and social as she is, and not so willing when she calls. It would be best if you were working another girl simultaneously, but you could just act like it too. A little jealousy can go a long way. Def don't pursue seeing her, and when SHE calls, insinuate plans with someone else untill her interest level goes up. Give it a try, you have nothing to lose at this point.

 

[onemorerobot]

Yes, if this is a consistent thing, nexting would be the easy solution. But i don't think it would hurt to bring a few more elements into the game. Even if you have been keeping communication minimal, you're still too available when she calls. It's almost like a form of passive desperation. Much more subtle than active desperation, but nonetheless desperation. Be as busy and social as she is, and not so willing when she calls. It would be best if you were working another girl simultaneously, but you could just act like it too. A little jealousy can go a long way. Def don't pursue seeing her, and when SHE calls, insinuate plans with someone else untill her interest level goes up. Give it a try, you have nothing to lose at this point.

Actually, last week when she was over, I jokingly made the implication that I had other girls, you know, just to get some kind of reaction. That definitely got her attention. "Your OTHER girls?" she says.

 

[ClassAct]

Yeah, but it's got to be more than just dropping the line. It's just like simply not calling her is not enough. These are "playing hard to get" games that most people learn early on. After a bit, you become pretty transparent unless you know all the subtleties. I think in your situation it's def best not to procede any further in this relationship untill you actually have another gril on the radar. Don't display any frustration with her, just put her on hold untill you find someone else, esp. a girl of lower caliber, interested in you. It'll make your game a lot tighter.

 

[ClassAct]

the reason I say this is bc all the symptons right now point to decreasing interest by her. Any further progress will result in low/no interest. Step back for a few weeks, regain composure, and find another girl before you proceed.

 

[onemorerobot]

Thanks a lot. Sounds like good advice.

 

[mrRuckus]

I'm just getting a little tired of her ****. I called her yesterday to see if she had to work today. She said she didn't and I told her that I got off at 3 o' clock if she wanted to hang out. She said "sure!" I told her I'd call her whenever I got out of work. I call her and she's at some restaurant and tells me she'll "probably" come over tonight. Probably? I'm sick of all these maybe's and probably's. She calls me back when she's done eating and asks me for the time, then tells me she'll be over in an hour or so. Give me a ****ing break.

what the hell did you say?

Did you ask for a specific time? God ask her "are you going to come over tonight? what time?" If she says she doesn't know or probably then say you'll see her some other time then since you're not going to wait around and instead find something else to do.

It's that damn easy. What you are b1tching about? She didn't do anything.

 

[onemorerobot]

I think this is a big "next". She called me around 7 and told me that her friend's car broke down and that she'd call me back. Let's see, what time is it now? It's almost 10. She might have tried to call at one point when the line was busy, but I don't even care.

 

[Call_Me_Daddy]

What a beotch.

Why do you put up with this crap?

 

[onemorerobot]

What a beotch.

Why do you put up with this crap?

I ask myself the same question, but no more will I put up with this bullshiiiiiiiiiiiiiite.

 

[flexion_]

I'm confused. You called her and asked if she wanted to hang out? What kind of plan is that? Good grief.

If you want flakey responses then keep with the flakey propositions. You give her an unclear plan and she just followed up with an unclear response.

Next time pick a time, place and thing to do... and she'll say yes or no right then and there.