"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Think im about to ganji this girl BUT..

christz

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I just wanted to get some opinons of others just to make sure this is the right move.

long story short, i like this girl i think she likes me we kinda have this thing, i'm no in a friends zone because well we've messed around somewhat and she is always getting freaky on the phone telling me to come over and fu*k her although i can't because i got work early in the mornings and two her parents would flip.

Also she calls me just to say good night, she calls me every night to have conversation, i don't call her to much she iniates all contact etc.. she picks up whenever i call even when she's sleeping (hears phone, picks up)

and pretty much a handfull of other good signs.

However what's bad and why i'm thinking about ganji'ing her for a bit is because one, when i make plans with her spur of the moment she normally tells me that she can't because she has plans with this and this person to do this and this.

uhh, if you liked somebody a lot wouldn't you just drop your shyt and go on a date? i dunno just me

another thing is, she tends to bring up other guys, and she even told me of this new guy she met recently who is "cool" and she's telling me how she's gonna try and hang out with him a lot and for what it seems work around his schedual so she can hang out with him.

However she still insist on calling me everynight before bed etc etc..

I'm thinkin I need to have this girl miss me, and i know she will but i dunno i mean ganji is reserved if the girl is playing games, this girl isn't disrespecting me she hasen't blown me off or flaked out on me EVER so maybe there is another method to get her to come my way quicker.

Attraction isn't a problem since she thinks and has said i'm the hottest guy she knows. so WTF man what do i NEED to do here?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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have you tried to set anything up besides spur of the moment stuff. If you haven't then try and if she flakes then ganji.
 

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420 posts my friend, you know what to do. Classic attention whorish behavior. Of course she wants you to bang her, yeah right. If she did, she'd be over with you not worrying about her parents. You had some fun with her, time to move on.

NEXT!
 

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Originally posted by belividere
have you tried to set anything up besides spur of the moment stuff. If you haven't then try and if she flakes then ganji.
No and that is what i'm thinking I need to do, and i guess spur of the moment type stuff is kinda bad considering, i mean she does have plans she's a pretty active girl.

today when i droped some spur of the moment plans on her, she gave me a LEGIT "no" because i'm doing "this" not a..

"ummm, well call me a little later and maybe we can , i dunno yet though"

kinda bullshyt answer, but your right i'll set some plans in stone tonight when she calls assuming she didn't already make plans with these people again tonight, however if i keep trying to set up plans and she's always setting plans up with other people before "considering" setting up plans with me, i may take that as a sign that she is flaking on me without the actual flakeing.
 

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Originally posted by Rockadeimis
420 posts my friend, you know what to do. Classic attention whorish behavior. Of course she wants you to bang her, yeah right. If she did, she'd be over with you not worrying about her parents. You had some fun with her, time to move on.

NEXT!
she's telling me to come over to her house and i'm the one refuseing the last few times we hung out she set it up and one time she actually followed me in her car without me knowing and i pulled over in a park and she pulled in after me and said i saw you and since we were talkin on the phone thought i'd surprise you.

so yah i dunno, this girl has her head on pretty tight. i doubt she's an AW since i've delt with the worst AW of them all recently
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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belividere

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Originally posted by christz
however if i keep trying to set up plans and she's always setting plans up with other people before "considering" setting up plans with me, i may take that as a sign that she is flaking on me without the actual flakeing.
Agreed. That is flaking. Good luck with her. Let us know what happens.
 
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