"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Think I messed up? It was my first attempt...

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Well, I've never really tried to meet women on the internet before, but I got into this chat room...

I started talking to this HB8...she just turned 24, I'm 18 and a half. First of all, is this gap too much? I told her I was 19, and she seemed ok with that age difference.

She lives about an hour from me. I used a lot of C&F, but I think it was too ****y and not enough funny. She called me sarcastic twice, and a couple of times she seemed exasperated instead of laughing at my comments. Also, I think it was too drawn out...it seemed to dry up. I just told her I had to go, and to let me know the next time she's in my city. She didn't reply to that....

I'm not really worried about it, but do you guys think I should forget her as a prospect? Also, any tips for this kind of thing in the future?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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right, some soft tips from me.

Dude, don't lie about your age unless your looking for a quick lay. Women always find out about that sh!t and then they wonder what else you've lied about. T
hen, I'd advise not talking on MSN or anything of the sort. Your real personality cannot shine through, so when your doing CnF online, your probably coming across as mean or sarcastic.

Also, you might still have a chance with this girl ,but just get her number and decide a date pal.

Good luck man, hope it works out well for ya.

Ben ;)
 

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Actually...I kinda am looking for a quick lay :)

For a relationship, I'd want somebody here, and somebody my age.

So you think next time I talk to her I should get the #?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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haha thanks man. Are you seriously 14?? I doubt that.

I'm just worried...I'm not good looking at all. Don't worry, I'm confident, and know I can attract women, but without having much time to get to know her, or without being able to show any social proof or build rapport, I'm worried it will come down to the physical qualities with this girl. But, I guess I have to just go for it, right?
 

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DonGorgon said:
There is nothing there but wasted bandwidth... women love the internet , phones and texting cause they can BS to their hearts content

So you're saying it's a lost cause?
 

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AR, man, I am 14, but I talk alot with Rollo Tomassi, Docs, Wescott II (my personal tutor, gotta love him) so Im well educated.
Use affirmations. Like so : I am fabulously good looking and every gir wants to jump my bones, it'll supercharge your confidence and change your view of yourself mate. You should love yourself completely, make sure you define how good looking you are, not ******d things (ads, comments about you etc, theyre just jealous of you ;))

Dude, no offense to Don Gorgon, but there's always hope if she hasn't LJBF'ed you. Alot of women use online as a emotional outlet, so make sure that isn't you, hey? You want that woman, you take fvcking charge and get her pal ;)

Good luck brother
Ben ;)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ha ha, no problem. We're a brotherhood here, need to stick together and help each other, instead of teasing and bullying each other. Nobody gets better by criticism, only praise can lead us forward, (Props to anyone who knows where I learnt this from ;))

Ben ;)
 
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