"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Think I just broke my best plate....

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I was just having a fun ecard texting war with my Monday plate,(she started it by sending me one that said "You treated me like an option so I left you like a choice") Dumb I know, but it was fun.

Then my Wednesday plate hit me up.

I replied and got back in to kicking Mondays ass. I had just sent her an ecard that said "violets are blue, roses are red, I wrote this for you now give me some head. Monday replied "ooohhh, you're bad, im gonna kick your ass".

I sent back something along the lines of "I cant take threats of violence seriously from someone I had bent over her bed last night listening to her say some crazy loud prayers to god. Im especially not scared when ive spanked that ass."

She texted back "what?"

I sent back "Dont what me little girl!, you know how many times you came!!!"

and she sent back "WHAT!!??"

And that my friends is when I realized I had accidentally sent those two things to Wednesday instead of Monday!! Not sure if I can dig my way out of this one.....but shes blowing my phone up like crazy...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Vidrio

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Shouldn't have been having a "text war" with a chick in the first place. Texting killed this relationship.
 

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Loved those texts. Would have been money if they were sent to the right person LOL.

Possible option: keep it going. "weren't you thinking of me last night?" "I was thinking of ****ing you and I thought you might have been thinking the same thing" She might think you're off your rocker and a little loopy but you might still have a chance of saving it. gotta work better than the truth.

Or else just go NC for a month then hit her up. She'll be all confused and mind ****ed but you'll have a month to think of what you're going to say to her LOL.
 

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Haha that's awesome and kinda sh!tty at the same time. If she brings it up I'd just play it off like it was a joke.

Act like nothing happened.
 

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Peaks&Valleys said:
Loved those texts. Would have been money if they were sent to the right person LOL.

Possible option: keep it going. "weren't you thinking of me last night?" "I was thinking of ****ing you and I thought you might have been thinking the same thing" She might think you're off your rocker and a little loopy but you might still have a chance of saving it. gotta work better than the truth.

Or else just go NC for a month then hit her up. She'll be all confused and mind ****ed but you'll have a month to think of what you're going to say to her LOL.
Lolol, I called her. Ive been open and honest with them about my lifestyle. She was PISSED!!! not that it happened because she knows I see other people, but that i "threw the details in her face!"

I started laughing, and couldnt stop. I was laugh wheeze crying!!! and she hung up on me. Think ill give her a day or two. My ribs are hurting from painful laughter.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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yep, as I say in my blog, women don't mind an alpha male "cheating," they just don't want it to be thrown in their face.

I woulda lied. I woulda said "Just kidding sweety" and let her hamster go apesh*t.

Read my post, addressing your exact situation, here:

http://matingmarket.wordpress.com/2011/10/24/rule-4-you-must-lie-to-women/

I'm not saying you lost her.. in fact you likely didn't.. but to avoid drama like this in the future take the advice above.
 

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Zarky said:
yep, as I say in my blog, women don't mind an alpha male "cheating," they just don't want it to be thrown in their face.
Gold; I was told recently by a plate "I know you're going to be seeing other girls, just don't tell me about it".

In fact it presumably goes in your favour.
 

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rhythmic said:
I was told recently by a plate "I know you're going to be seeing other girls, just don't tell me about it".
To which you reply "Aw, sweety, you know you're the only girl for me," and then give her a big smile. She won't believe you but the words appease the socialized part of her brain so that she has plausible deniability.
 

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@ Zarky, I read the blog. Talked to her today over lunch. Made her understand that although she isnt the only one, she is number one. Love the phrasing on that.

Now I've just gotta hit it right tonight to make it all better.
 

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Oh man, you were a casualty of your own texting war. Just say, opps, sorry about that. So you were seeing and pounding someone else, so what? When did you marry her? You didn't. You don't own her shiyat! Proceed as usual.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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