"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Think I just broke my best plate....

Vigs

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I was just having a fun ecard texting war with my Monday plate,(she started it by sending me one that said "You treated me like an option so I left you like a choice") Dumb I know, but it was fun.

Then my Wednesday plate hit me up.

I replied and got back in to kicking Mondays ass. I had just sent her an ecard that said "violets are blue, roses are red, I wrote this for you now give me some head. Monday replied "ooohhh, you're bad, im gonna kick your ass".

I sent back something along the lines of "I cant take threats of violence seriously from someone I had bent over her bed last night listening to her say some crazy loud prayers to god. Im especially not scared when ive spanked that ass."

She texted back "what?"

I sent back "Dont what me little girl!, you know how many times you came!!!"

and she sent back "WHAT!!??"

And that my friends is when I realized I had accidentally sent those two things to Wednesday instead of Monday!! Not sure if I can dig my way out of this one.....but shes blowing my phone up like crazy...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Vidrio

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Shouldn't have been having a "text war" with a chick in the first place. Texting killed this relationship.
 

Peaks&Valleys

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Loved those texts. Would have been money if they were sent to the right person LOL.

Possible option: keep it going. "weren't you thinking of me last night?" "I was thinking of ****ing you and I thought you might have been thinking the same thing" She might think you're off your rocker and a little loopy but you might still have a chance of saving it. gotta work better than the truth.

Or else just go NC for a month then hit her up. She'll be all confused and mind ****ed but you'll have a month to think of what you're going to say to her LOL.
 

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Haha that's awesome and kinda sh!tty at the same time. If she brings it up I'd just play it off like it was a joke.

Act like nothing happened.
 

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Peaks&Valleys said:
Loved those texts. Would have been money if they were sent to the right person LOL.

Possible option: keep it going. "weren't you thinking of me last night?" "I was thinking of ****ing you and I thought you might have been thinking the same thing" She might think you're off your rocker and a little loopy but you might still have a chance of saving it. gotta work better than the truth.

Or else just go NC for a month then hit her up. She'll be all confused and mind ****ed but you'll have a month to think of what you're going to say to her LOL.
Lolol, I called her. Ive been open and honest with them about my lifestyle. She was PISSED!!! not that it happened because she knows I see other people, but that i "threw the details in her face!"

I started laughing, and couldnt stop. I was laugh wheeze crying!!! and she hung up on me. Think ill give her a day or two. My ribs are hurting from painful laughter.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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yep, as I say in my blog, women don't mind an alpha male "cheating," they just don't want it to be thrown in their face.

I woulda lied. I woulda said "Just kidding sweety" and let her hamster go apesh*t.

Read my post, addressing your exact situation, here:

http://matingmarket.wordpress.com/2011/10/24/rule-4-you-must-lie-to-women/

I'm not saying you lost her.. in fact you likely didn't.. but to avoid drama like this in the future take the advice above.
 

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Zarky said:
yep, as I say in my blog, women don't mind an alpha male "cheating," they just don't want it to be thrown in their face.
Gold; I was told recently by a plate "I know you're going to be seeing other girls, just don't tell me about it".

In fact it presumably goes in your favour.
 

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rhythmic said:
I was told recently by a plate "I know you're going to be seeing other girls, just don't tell me about it".
To which you reply "Aw, sweety, you know you're the only girl for me," and then give her a big smile. She won't believe you but the words appease the socialized part of her brain so that she has plausible deniability.
 

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@ Zarky, I read the blog. Talked to her today over lunch. Made her understand that although she isnt the only one, she is number one. Love the phrasing on that.

Now I've just gotta hit it right tonight to make it all better.
 

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Oh man, you were a casualty of your own texting war. Just say, opps, sorry about that. So you were seeing and pounding someone else, so what? When did you marry her? You didn't. You don't own her shiyat! Proceed as usual.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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