Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Think FB Might Flake Do I Remind Her?

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My 3 month F Buddy is the hottest of my 3 plates at the moment, and I have started to get attatched to her. My problem is that she is so busy/unavailable, and would only see her once a week, sometimes twice a week but it is always me who sets up the meet and she has flaked a few times.

Today I was with her but it was with other friends also, so I didn't really get to spend time with her alone. But I did ask her to come to watch a movie on Saturday night at my house (tomorrow) and she just sort of said "err yeaah ok".
She says yes to meet up but never seems like she really wants to anymore.

She's told me a month ago that she doesn't want to fall for me because of issues with her and my ex, but she think she "may have already", and I feel like I may have for her. But I don't know why she seems to be backing off lately and has also stopped with the through the day non-stop texts.

Anyway, I have a feeling she might cancel tomorrow. I'm pretty sure there isn't somebody else involved. But may be cancelling so that she "doesn't get too close" to me.

So with it just being a casual conversation where I asked her to come over tomorrow night, do I text her through the day tomorrow to make sure?

I'd prefer to wait until about 5pm and text if she hasn't yet.
What would I say if she doesn't text me to confirm?
And how would I react to her if she was to say she can't make it?
Thanks
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Thanks I have read your post it is great advice. Will read that other link now.
 

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Don't make it a formal reminder. Just strike up conversation, draw her in and then casually throw in: "Don't worry, I'll tell you about it tonight. See you around 7!"
 

frisco

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Just a thought If the girl is loosing IL slightly shouldn't you bump her down on your list of broads. If shes flaky you shouldn't set her up for a Saturday IMO She now knows you have nothing planed for Saturday, If anything you should cancel on her and say something came up and schedule for a Tuesday or something.

also I found this post you may want to read. Seems legit if shes been flaking .

http://puarticles.blogspot.com/2008/01/zans-powerful-technique.html
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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If she's coming to yours to watch a movie, tell her to bring popcorn, simple.
 
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