Think C+F ruined chances with HB...

[silverwex]

Just a quick summary.

Met a girl out last weekend, k&n closed her and went about my business.

Next day she text me:

HB: Remember me?

Silver: Which one were you again...?lol. Yeah, how are you? Did you leave a reminder on my phone?

(I had a reminder set for 4pm to 'TEXT HB' I think she may have put that in...)

HB: No, why would I do that?

Silver: Oh, ok no prob. So how was the party?

NO REPLY

A few hours later...

Silver: Wow, that good then was it!?

NO REPLY

Im gonna text her again tomorrow and thats the last time Im gonna try her. Heres what Im gonna say:

Silver: You dont talk much do you?! So you go out in town much?

I think the fact that I asked her (jokingly) 'Which one were you again?' may have fvcked up my chances.

Either that or shes outta credit.

If nothing happens thats fine as Ill just replace her next weekend with someone better looking/personality.

Any thoughts?

 

[Nighthawk]

You shouldn't have texted her before getting a response. She may be busy, or more likely testing you for desperation. One more text and you'll be dead meat.

 

[silverwex]

Ah fvck it man, Im just gonna try it again and if it doesnt work out, it doesnt work out. Nothing to lose and Ill do better this weekend anyway.

I suppose it just something to keep me busy with til Saturday rolls around!

 

[Jariel]

Hey Silverwex,

I think your text would be fine with a lot of women, but some women would take it the wrong way - especially in a text where they can't sense the joke in your voice tone - and judging by her humourless reply, she doesn't seem the type to get it. I took a girl like this on a date once, and she took my neghits as me making fun of her. People tell me she's a bit high strung and sensitive.

Anyway, the fact that she text you first implies she's interested for sure. However, I agree with Nighthawk it's always a mistake to text back before a response. She might be playing cool (even my gf does it with me and I to her) and I think you need to play it the same way.

Absolutely DO NOT text her now until she replies. Nothing kills high interest quicker than desperation. Then if/when she does, make her wait several hours to a day for your reply. Generally, just take it slow.

When we first met, my gf and I only text each other a few times a week, sometimes taking a day or two to reply to a question. We only started having more contact after we met a few more times and got more familiar.

 

[S0LID]

GUYS, listen! ****y and funny needs to be vibe calibrated!!

If she's laughing her ass off, and you say calm down your cramping my style, you may pull it off.

If shes just talking and you bust out that line she may hate you.

 

[TheTrader]

i agree the C+F can only applied when people are in rapport. in your situation i would delete her number, if she texts you back then add her number again and give her a second chance

 

[\O/]

Any LSE-girl who doesn't know your style would respond badly (or not at all) to a comment like that...

 

[Mr_knowit_all]

You guys care too much about what the girl thinks. You made a joke, so what? If she doesn't get it...who cares? Women get off on playing Ms Pouty pants. Don't text her again.

 

[Alfie Crew]

C&F is hard to pull off with a text depending on the girl. And I wouldn't text her again there is no need to.

 

[SamePendo]

Don't send messages that are likely to be ignored. Call her and ask her out, if that's your plan, if it's not, NEXT that ass out.

 

[Distant Light]

Originally posted by TheTrader
i agree the C+F can only applied when people are in rapport. in your situation i would delete her number, if she texts you back then add her number again and give her a second chance

???

u got it all wrong C&F is done only to gain attraction you should have stopped the C&f after you got that number, i think u were over doing the C&F.

 

[silverwex]

thanks for the replies guys.

Good points.

Hold on for one second...there, just deleted her no so theres no way I can text her now even if I wanted to lol.

 

[Dublinsfinest]

Originally posted by silverwex
thanks for the replies guys.

Good points.

Hold on for one second...there, just deleted her no so theres no way I can text her now even if I wanted to lol.

This is one of the most AFC threads I've seen in a while.

RING HER!

Stop mentally masturbating about texts. RING!

 

[silverwex]

This is one of the most AFC threads I've seen in a while.

RING HER!

Stop mentally masturbating about texts. RING!

AFC? Me? Never!

Seriously, dublinsfinest, you know how it is over here - girls give you their nos initally so you TEXT them - ringing seems a bit 'weird' especially if its the first time you contacting them.

Argue that all you want but thats the way its down here in the SE anyway...

Oh and after that 'text episode' you want me to ring her? Isnt THAT AFC...? I dont have her no anymore anyway lol.

 

[dirtycm]

I'm gonna add that ****y and funny can really cause problems somtimes. I am dating this smokin' 34 yr japanese chick, and sometimes when I try ****y funny to keep it interesting, she interprets it wrong and thinks Im being a jerk. Some might say its a language thing, but I just think that her and many woman just don't get CnF the same way we do.

As for your text issue, at this point why not write back and try. The line has already gone slack and you have nothing to lose. I just wouldn't put too much investment mentally into this one...-dirtycm

 

[silverwex]

Yeah I think Ive been taking C+F way too far recently since REALLY getting into the whole PUA scene.

I think some girls are actually starting to dislike me a lot because of this - so Im gonna be nice(er) to them this weekened if I see 'em!

As stated already dirtycm, I deleted her no but i think I remember it (I only have to read a number once to remember it - weird!) so its 50/50 as whether to text or not. lol.

 

[Jariel]

Originally posted by silverwex
Yeah I think Ive been taking C+F way too far recently since REALLY getting into the whole PUA scene.

Have a browse over this thread by Shezzler. There are some good points and good replies!

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=94747

But don't focus too much on your c+f ruining your game here as I don't think it did. I think it was just the wrong type of girl to use it on and no reflection on you.