"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Think=Become

AverageJoe5

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"The mind is everything, what we think we become." - Buddha Gotama

This is an ancient Buddist quote, but yet it's still holds true today. If one thinks they're a winner, they become a winner. If one thinks they're a loser, they become a loser. Think about it. Last time you thought positive of yourself, did you find yourself with a burst of confidence? Flip the coin over. Last time you thought negative of yourself, did you find yourself in a fit of depression? When your afraid of approaching a girl, what are you usually thinking? The answer is probably some negative thoughts of yourself. Change that around and let's say your thinking more positive of yourself. Suddenly you find the fear evaporating away and yourself approaching that hottie. The mind is a very powerful force which is controlled by what we think. It's how one percieves themself and the world around them. We make the world around us. How is the world your living in?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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PigAdlemPimp

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Being a Winner in life does not always make people happy, I once had a freind named Brad, who was a super confident type of dude, he was a hunk who was gifted in most areas of his life, he ran a successful business and had the majority of the hottest babes who knew him virtually eating out of his hands, yet he continuously was admitted to psychiatric hospitals with severe depression and seriously contemplated suicide on many occassions.
If you look in the newspapers and the tv you will see just how many famous people there are who are depressed and suicidal, many do end their own lives, which idicates to me that being a Winner with the hottest babes or anything else in life does not automatically equate to happiness and a positive attitude towards all other aspects in that particular dudes life. :mad:
 

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PigAdlemPimp said:
Being a Winner in life does not always make people happy, I once had a freind named Brad, who was a super confident type of dude, he was a hunk who was gifted in most areas of his life, he ran a successful business and had the majority of the hottest babes who knew him virtually eating out of his hands, yet he continuously was admitted to psychiatric hospitals with severe depression and seriously contemplated suicide on many occassions.
If you look in the newspapers and the tv you will see just how many famous people there are who are depressed and suicidal, many do end their own lives, which idicates to me that being a Winner with the hottest babes or anything else in life does not automatically equate to happiness and a positive attitude towards all other aspects in that particular dudes life. :mad:

he should probably do something else that makes him happy.
 

JPFromTally

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Your name is AverageJoe5.... Does this mean you think you're average? If so, then does that mean that you are?
 

LA_Chico

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JPFromTally said:
Your name is AverageJoe5.... Does this mean you think you're average? If so, then does that mean that you are?
no bro, i think it means he plays Dodgeball man
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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blueguy

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Great post. I can say that this is probably where most of my success comes from as does most anybody else's.
 

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to an extent this is true, but just THINKING doesn't mean that you are, for example, if I thought I was the fastest runner in the world it wouldn't make me the fastest just by THINKING IT.

I know what you really mean so I'm just being awkward, but thinking is the first step to becoming and becoming is achieved by doing, but realistically there are MANY more factors that determine how good someone can be, genetics, environmental factors all affect someone.

but, your right, a positive outlook is definately required before undertaking anything.
 
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