"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I've just started reading Think and Grow Rich and it has already become evident to me that Pook's mantra, "As you think you shall become" may be the core message of this book.

Read along with me and tell me if anything hits you or makes you think.

Think and Grow Rich

I have a feeling this will be moved to "Anything Else" soon, but I want it to be exposed to a greater amount of people, because I feel that the concept is worthy of attention.

Adios, ;)

Duke
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Duke,

Thank you for the link. This is an important work for any aspiring "Man of Importance." Let this be a bump, so others can read, digest, and understand.

I Have Risen
 

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Yeah good book.

I think PERSISTENCE is another thing they emphasise
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by Duke
I've just started reading Think and Grow Rich and it has already become evident to me that Pook's mantra, "As you think you shall become" may be the core message of this book.

Read along with me and tell me if anything hits you or makes you think.

Think and Grow Rich

I have a feeling this will be moved to "Anything Else" soon, but I want it to be exposed to a greater amount of people, because I feel that the concept is worthy of attention.

Adios, ;)

Duke
I don't know why you're referring to this idea as Pook's mantra. Pook is HARDLY the creator of this "mantra". This idea has been around for ages, far before Pook was around. It is better known as the self-fulfilling prophecy. Think you'll fail, you will fail. Think you'll succeed, you will succeed within reasonable limits. Any psych. for morons introductory level class will tell you this. I've heard this since elementary school when I was 10. I don't care what fancy wording he uses, that's all he's referring to.
 

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Right... if you'll notice, I posted that almost a year ago. With all due respect, my thoughts continually change, so just respond to my recent posts.

Carnegie, that's why I posted parts one and two in my bump.

-Duke
 

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the book is amazing...check out his other book...success with a positive mental attitude...i prefer this one to think and grow rich but both are very good books
 

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Originally posted by Duke
Right... if you'll notice, I posted that almost a year ago. With all due respect, my thoughts continually change, so just respond to my recent posts.

Carnegie, that's why I posted parts one and two in my bump.

-Duke
Oh yeah just noticed. Hehe anyways it was bumped. I don't respond to anything that is not on the first 2 pages.
 

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the secret is WHY the prophecy fulfills itself.

i never realized the WHY until recently and it made all the difference.... an epiphany really. dropping of the scales and such.

if you believe in yourself and are filled with self confidence in the middle of the woods, and you're a city boy with nothing but a subway token and a stick, i doubt it will help you much. in the same situation, if you are filled with self loathing and low self esteem, i doubt it would hurt.

the key to all this stuff is that:

1. it is a SOCIAL phenomenon. it is only evident when among people (well, perhaps animals as well). i question whether it affects the karmic, inanimate universe in some mystical way.
2. it has to do with how people are conditioned/evolved to respond to POWER or (important) perceived power.
3. how you think about yourself is not undetectable to others. your BEHAVIOR betrays you. do your actions and emotions and words come from a place of STRENGTH or WEAKNESS? others can see it and they know it - though they may never articulate it.

#1 has to do with the situation in the woods.

#2 is the surprising thing. basically, it means that no matter how fair minded the person, at an instinct level, people kowtow to strength and they despise weakness.

#3 and therefore, if you examine your words, your actions and your behavior... heck maybe even your personality, you will see that it reeks of whatever your self esteem is filled with.

and inasmuch as success in your endeavors in this world is primarily of the INTERPERSONAL kind, in a social setting among other people - and not of the isolated person in the woods sort - your destiny can indeed be greatly affected by how you perceive yourself.

i am not religious but in this light, it's surprising how much the church ends up preaching some useful ideas.... if you are a child of god and heaven and earth are yours and your behavior really reflects such a heritage - you'll probably behave in a manner that shows strength. but then again, there are other things like the mandate against vanity, material goods and some implied asceticism that can really sabotage your efforts at djing. and there is that whole thing about no sex till marriage and stuff like that.... :)

delta
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I love the book reading it for my second time through. Its all about DESIRE BABY!!!:cool:
 

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This is definitely a good book.

I would also recommend "Psycho-Cybernetics" which another DJ on this board recommended (I can't remember who exactly, but thanks. ;))

It is from 1960 but I swear it reads like it was written now. I guess not much changes over the years when it comes to social interaction, self-esteem, etc. It isn't a huge book but every chapter backs a lot of good information. I picked it up at my local library but you can get it on Amazon for $6.75.
 

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Yea I've got psycho-cybernetics. I'm only a quarter of my way into it and so far its good. I also got think and grow rich but I'm busy with a lot of sh*t.

Keep up the good work
 

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You know, these girls we approach don't realise how lucky they are, we're even very well read, have ambition and know a thing or two about how our brains work.
 
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