"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Things seem to go great so far! Any suggestions on next move?

j8snx1

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Alright, so here's the deal:

I texted some of my friends because I was bored on the way to my friend's place on the bus. Along the way, I texted this cutie I know (HB7.5), asked her what shes doing over winter break and she says:

"Hey, I was just thinking about you this morning..I have no plans for the break. You?"

And I'm sitting there with a smirk, so I decide to apply some C&F:

"Thinking about me eh? Hopefully it was rated R I mean PG! I'm heading over to my friend's place to play some ball. Tell you what. I'm busy today and tomorrow, so let's go out on Thursday alright? See you then."

*Note: I did this yesterday*

I feel great since I "assumed the sale", applied some C&F, and planned a date, which is a fresh air from the days I've been spending @ the gym. I'm going to give her a call today and lay out my plans, giving her options from bowling, playing pool, or a simple lunch. Whatever the plan is, I'm going to make sure I do the whole attract/rapport stuff. It's in the bag :cheer:

Anything else I should do before I dive in head first into this?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Desdinova

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I'm going to give her a call today and lay out my plans, giving her options from bowling, playing pool, or a simple lunch.
I wouldn't give her any options. Women are terrible at making decisions, and they love a man who takes the lead. Pick the one thing YOU would like to do the most, and take her along for the fun.

Otherwise, sounds like you're going allright! Let us know how it goes.
 

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So far you seem to have done very well. You even talked about times you were unavailable before you said when you are available. Good job.

I would say do something that involves action like the bowling or pool idea, cause that has fun built into it. If you do just lunch though make sure you have a good way of keeping her entertained (not overboard, but make sure she doesn't yawn lol).
 

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If you`ve got one of those places in your city that has glow-in-the-dark indoor golf, that`s golden.

Lots of opportunity to do kino and of course instruct her in how to perform a proper swing, etc.

Just my 2 cents.

Cheers,
Mav
 

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Good news and bad news people:

Good news!
- We're still planning to go out on Saturday, only because she has some basketball event to go to on Thursday.

Bad news.
- She didn't tell me about some basketball event when I suggested we go out that day.

Good news!
- I'll keep you guys posted, hopefully this thread lasts long enough for you guys to see my updates!

Bad news.
- I'm getting small doubts on the back of my mind that something is fishy about this girl. =(
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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