"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Things seem to go great so far! Any suggestions on next move?

j8snx1

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Alright, so here's the deal:

I texted some of my friends because I was bored on the way to my friend's place on the bus. Along the way, I texted this cutie I know (HB7.5), asked her what shes doing over winter break and she says:

"Hey, I was just thinking about you this morning..I have no plans for the break. You?"

And I'm sitting there with a smirk, so I decide to apply some C&F:

"Thinking about me eh? Hopefully it was rated R I mean PG! I'm heading over to my friend's place to play some ball. Tell you what. I'm busy today and tomorrow, so let's go out on Thursday alright? See you then."

*Note: I did this yesterday*

I feel great since I "assumed the sale", applied some C&F, and planned a date, which is a fresh air from the days I've been spending @ the gym. I'm going to give her a call today and lay out my plans, giving her options from bowling, playing pool, or a simple lunch. Whatever the plan is, I'm going to make sure I do the whole attract/rapport stuff. It's in the bag :cheer:

Anything else I should do before I dive in head first into this?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'm going to give her a call today and lay out my plans, giving her options from bowling, playing pool, or a simple lunch.
I wouldn't give her any options. Women are terrible at making decisions, and they love a man who takes the lead. Pick the one thing YOU would like to do the most, and take her along for the fun.

Otherwise, sounds like you're going allright! Let us know how it goes.
 

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So far you seem to have done very well. You even talked about times you were unavailable before you said when you are available. Good job.

I would say do something that involves action like the bowling or pool idea, cause that has fun built into it. If you do just lunch though make sure you have a good way of keeping her entertained (not overboard, but make sure she doesn't yawn lol).
 

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If you`ve got one of those places in your city that has glow-in-the-dark indoor golf, that`s golden.

Lots of opportunity to do kino and of course instruct her in how to perform a proper swing, etc.

Just my 2 cents.

Cheers,
Mav
 

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Good news and bad news people:

Good news!
- We're still planning to go out on Saturday, only because she has some basketball event to go to on Thursday.

Bad news.
- She didn't tell me about some basketball event when I suggested we go out that day.

Good news!
- I'll keep you guys posted, hopefully this thread lasts long enough for you guys to see my updates!

Bad news.
- I'm getting small doubts on the back of my mind that something is fishy about this girl. =(
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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