Master Don Juan
- Oct 10, 2018
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- The Midwest
As for that girl I mentioned, I don't know when I'll run into her again and I still don't really know her all that well. That's the thing, even if she may be interested I don't have much of a way to do anything with that as it stands right mow.Alright, listen up. You've taken some solid steps by going out more, but it’s time to turn up the heat. Hitting the same coffee shop every day? Great, you’re a creature of habit — now make that work for you. Start conversations, even if they’re just with the barista. It’s all practice for the main event.
As for dating apps, swiping less is a step in the right direction, but why are you still paying for Tinder if it’s getting you nowhere? That’s like buying a gym membership and never lifting a weight. Use that money for something that actually benefits you.
Now, about this woman you're into. She’s giving you looks, and you're chatting easily; that’s a green light to take it up a notch. Are texts going unanswered? Forget the phone; ask her out in person. No scripts; be genuine, be direct. If she's not on her phone much, then you being in her face can’t be ignored.
Your bass playing caught her attention; that's your in. Invite her to another session, or better yet, see if she wants to collaborate on a piece. That’s interaction, that’s personal, and that’s how you get to know someone.
And drop the "I'll never be able to approach" attitude. You’ve already proven you can talk to women when the pressure's off, so build on that. Every time you visualize approaching someone and draw a blank, replace that with what you'd say to your friends. Keep it light, keep it funny, keep it real.
Are you worried about your "prime"? The only thing that makes it prime is what you do with it. The past is dust — you can't change it, but you can bulldoze your way into a future where you're a guy who approaches life head-on.
This isn’t just about getting a date. It’s about building a life where you’re happy with or without one. Keep improving yourself, keep making those human connections, and the rest will follow. Remember, nobody gets better at anything by just wishing it — get out there and swing the bat.