They want me. But I do nothing!

[Tails]

I've had quite a few chances to get a lay from a few girls. But, for some reason, I keep backing off and never go for the bait. I keep saying to myself that I don't want to get involved if I don't see them as someone I'd date... even though I could sleep with the girl, I'd still leave it.

This just makes everything go even slower (finding the right girl). Maybe I should just sleep with them all and it will make time go by and I will find the right girl unexpectedly?

Not so long ago, I had a girl invite me to her school holidays party at her beach house WITH all her friends to stay for the night. I declined. She hasn't really talked to me since. I might give her another go today if she gets online.

(She probably won't want me no more, it's too late).

There's also another girl I've known for a very long time. She keeps saying she use to love me and all that. I think she still wants me because she gave me her number and she said she wanted to do something. I never called. Usually I get many numbers, and never call, only because I don't see them a dating material, only someone to sleep with. Maybe I should just have some fun with these girls? It might help me feel better, because everyday I keep hoping to find the right girl for me and I'm always looking around (which sucks) - this way, if I have fun, maybe the right girl will come meanwhile and then I can just ditch the girls for the one I want.

What do you guys think I should do?

 

[lerxst]

I dunno... get over yourself maybe?

Do the girl or do not do the girl, there is no should. Just call her foo. There is no such thing as The One Right Girl. There is only The One Girl Right Now.

 

[Tails]

LOL. Okay, I'm calling one of them now actually. And yes, I'm totally sure she wants to sleep with me. She also has a boyfriend, heh. Oh well, she don't like him anyway, she keeps complaining about him and I think he hits her.

At least if I sleep around a bit, I won't be looking for a girl so much.

 

[Tails]

LOL, it sure is. I use to be a huge player... I kind of stopped though. I haven't had sex since March last year. I just wanted to find a girl and settle you know? But maybe I should just keep messing around again until I find a decent girl.

I just text the girl then. She'll want to hang out for sure. I've known her for three years, and she's still trying to get me in bed. Maybe she will be lucky now eh? LOL.

 

[DankNuggs]

I'll tell you what you should do...Get off your a$$. Going ot an overnight holiday party with a girl doesn't mean you'll get laid..you may have fun though...Call back girls you get numbers from, even if you aren't interested in 'dating' them, if you have a free night, and need a friend to do something call the girl, get some head...


I think saying they 'aren't dating material' is a cop out. You don't know them well enough to make that determination.

 

[DankNuggs]

Originally posted by Tails
LOL, it sure is. I use to be a huge player... I kind of stopped though. I haven't had sex since March last year. I just wanted to find a girl and settle you know? But maybe I should just keep messing around again until I find a decent girl.

I just text the girl then. She'll want to hang out for sure. I've known her for three years, and she's still trying to get me in bed. Maybe she will be lucky now eh? LOL.

You used to be a huge player??? Your 19??!?!?!?!? Now is not the time to 'settle down'

 

[Tails]

Blah, whatever. I meant that they aren't dating material because of their looks or personality. When I say that it mean I could only stay that kind of person for a limited time. I wouldn't need to know them either... some girls looks just don't do it for me and I'd only ever sleep with them.

 

[lerxst]

Originally posted by Tails
I'd only ever sleep with them.

And what is your problem here?!?!?! Re-read my above post.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by Tails
LOL, it sure is. I use to be a huge player... I kind of stopped though. I haven't had sex since March last year. I just wanted to find a girl and settle you know? But maybe I should just keep messing around again until I find a decent girl.

I'm actually feeling you a little here...I got together with three different girls last week. They all had their plusses and minuses. But after a while you just get bored with women. Give it a rest and come back if that's how you're feeling. Seriously, don't force yourself into having sex if you're not horny, just because the DJ website says you should.

But you probably ought to draw a distinction between "love" and "sex". A year is a long time. Don't hold back on banging a girl just because you don't love her. There ARE girls out there who just want sex too.

 

[Porky]

You need to just put yourself out there. You're making excuses because deep down you're afraid of rejection and commitment. Once you do start dating though, you'll wonder how you ever went without it.