"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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they say spinning plates is the cure to oneitis

lamobatsman

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if this is so true then why did i struggle??!!!

in fact when i knew i was getting feelings for her i upped my plate count!

i think its BS
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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No, you have to spin plates before you get oneitis, because it goes a long way in protecting you from the dreaded condition. If you have one option and you fall for her, it's over at that point. No amount of plate spinning or plate breaking or plate anything for that matter will help you at that point.
 

lamobatsman

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yyc12 said:
No, you have to spin plates before you get oneitis, because it goes a long way in protecting you from the dreaded condition. If you have one option and you fall for her, it's over at that point. No amount of plate spinning or plate breaking or plate anything for that matter will help you at that point.
i was spinning plates before and after i started feeling for her. it still dindt work
 

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It happens.

Plate spinning is supposed to help prevent and sometimes cure oneitis.

But it is no guarantee. Sometimes we lose our sh!t over a girl.

Just try to get a handle on yourself, son!! Especially if there's no reciprocation, because it will eat you alive.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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HalfPUAHalfAFC said:
It happens.

Plate spinning is supposed to help prevent and sometimes cure oneitis.

But it is no guarantee. Sometimes we lose our sh!t over a girl.

Just try to get a handle on yourself, son!! Especially if there's no reciprocation, because it will eat you alive.
^^^yup - this sh1t isnt an exact science

if it was then we'd have a secret formula and a magic bullet pickup line.
 

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Spinning plates works in theory but the problem arises when some of your plates are far higher quality than the others. If you have a 9 on the go and you're spinning multiple 5s alongside then spinning more plates isn't going to fix the problem.

Unfortunately the only way I can think of improving the situation is to spin more 9s but obviously they're rarer and that's far easier said than done.
 

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When I lost a gal, I always just did something else that I really love, like practice and compete at "combat' style shooting matches, teaching and competing at karate, hunting, backpacking, motorcycle riding, posting on the Net, etc. Realize that people are mortal and changable. Don't have your very life riding on other people, much less on any ONE person. That's insanity/slavery/ suicide in the making, dudes. Fvck all that.
 

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" spinning plates" means " having abundance with girls"

what that means is, you don't care if you see her or loose her because YOU KNOW you will find another.

that's all it means. when guys start out they need something to hold on to because they don't believe in what they are doing yet.

if you told a chode he could get a girl just by going to the club and talking to girls for 5 years straight. he wouldn't believe it. he can't. he doesn't believe it in his reality yet. give him a year in the game after going out for 7 nights a week. he's right there with you
 

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Have to say I think this cure is the single most important advice anyone should take from this site.

Maybe the concept can be interpreted in different ways, but if you have plenty of options or even completely different pursuits all together, no single one will become your primary focus.

When I first found this site I was in deep oneitis with a girl I could not realistically be with for geographical reasons (yes I also work with her but that's a whole different topic!). Now a year later she's back trying to find her way into my head, but this time it's all very different as I watch her becoming a little obsessed while I'm just emotionally detached going about my life. Best thing I ever learned regarding women.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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