"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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they say spinning plates is the cure to oneitis

lamobatsman

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if this is so true then why did i struggle??!!!

in fact when i knew i was getting feelings for her i upped my plate count!

i think its BS
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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No, you have to spin plates before you get oneitis, because it goes a long way in protecting you from the dreaded condition. If you have one option and you fall for her, it's over at that point. No amount of plate spinning or plate breaking or plate anything for that matter will help you at that point.
 

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yyc12 said:
No, you have to spin plates before you get oneitis, because it goes a long way in protecting you from the dreaded condition. If you have one option and you fall for her, it's over at that point. No amount of plate spinning or plate breaking or plate anything for that matter will help you at that point.
i was spinning plates before and after i started feeling for her. it still dindt work
 

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It happens.

Plate spinning is supposed to help prevent and sometimes cure oneitis.

But it is no guarantee. Sometimes we lose our sh!t over a girl.

Just try to get a handle on yourself, son!! Especially if there's no reciprocation, because it will eat you alive.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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HalfPUAHalfAFC said:
It happens.

Plate spinning is supposed to help prevent and sometimes cure oneitis.

But it is no guarantee. Sometimes we lose our sh!t over a girl.

Just try to get a handle on yourself, son!! Especially if there's no reciprocation, because it will eat you alive.
^^^yup - this sh1t isnt an exact science

if it was then we'd have a secret formula and a magic bullet pickup line.
 

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Spinning plates works in theory but the problem arises when some of your plates are far higher quality than the others. If you have a 9 on the go and you're spinning multiple 5s alongside then spinning more plates isn't going to fix the problem.

Unfortunately the only way I can think of improving the situation is to spin more 9s but obviously they're rarer and that's far easier said than done.
 

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When I lost a gal, I always just did something else that I really love, like practice and compete at "combat' style shooting matches, teaching and competing at karate, hunting, backpacking, motorcycle riding, posting on the Net, etc. Realize that people are mortal and changable. Don't have your very life riding on other people, much less on any ONE person. That's insanity/slavery/ suicide in the making, dudes. Fvck all that.
 

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" spinning plates" means " having abundance with girls"

what that means is, you don't care if you see her or loose her because YOU KNOW you will find another.

that's all it means. when guys start out they need something to hold on to because they don't believe in what they are doing yet.

if you told a chode he could get a girl just by going to the club and talking to girls for 5 years straight. he wouldn't believe it. he can't. he doesn't believe it in his reality yet. give him a year in the game after going out for 7 nights a week. he's right there with you
 

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Have to say I think this cure is the single most important advice anyone should take from this site.

Maybe the concept can be interpreted in different ways, but if you have plenty of options or even completely different pursuits all together, no single one will become your primary focus.

When I first found this site I was in deep oneitis with a girl I could not realistically be with for geographical reasons (yes I also work with her but that's a whole different topic!). Now a year later she's back trying to find her way into my head, but this time it's all very different as I watch her becoming a little obsessed while I'm just emotionally detached going about my life. Best thing I ever learned regarding women.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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