"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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They propositioned my GF for a 3-way

Ricky

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What would you do about this? I was pretty mad.

My gf got off work and went to a party. I had let her know that I was going to work on grad school stuff all night so under no circumstances was I going out.

At the party, my gf was propositioned by one of her gf's and her husband to have a 3 way. She called me later and told me all about how she was freaked out about it.

They were giving her a hard time and even tried to convince her to screw the girls husband and another guy there.

She didn't drive to the party and had to wait until another girl who went was ready to leave.

We talked about it, i didn't know what to say. I was pretty disgusted though.

Now we've joked in the past about having another girl, but never really seriously considered it (except for maybe once with a girl we both met).

This really made me sick. In fact it pretty muchs sucks knowing that whoever your girl is, there's always some guy trying to bang her behind your back.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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that is why u never sweat it too much.. just be happy because you are the one dating the hottie everyone is drooling over. ;)
 

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It just goes to show that everyone wants a piece of action of what you get everyday. If anything, it would be a self esteem booster. Not many people are dating someone that everyone else wants.
 

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splinter, where u live bud, let's go hang out!
 

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if she was that freaked out, then why didn't she call you and have you pick her up?

or since you two have talked about it, did it really freak her out?

since you weren't at the party, do you really know the whole truth?

not pickin on ya bro, but questions are questions and when a female is involved feeding you with news like this you must ask yourself some good ones.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I live in Minnetonka (about 30 minutes west of Minneapolis)
 

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Well i do believe my gf in this case. Yeah if I hadn't been dating her for a while, i would wonder if this might be a cover for something she actually did or not.

On one hand it doesn't surprise me that they propositioned her. They flirt with her all the time.

I went to their wedding. I am kind of pissed for another reason to as i remember it, because this girl tried to set my gf up with another guy when we were having problems/breakups.
 
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They obviously do not ask every girl - they must of saw something in your girl that led them to believe that she was the 'type' of girl that would consider this.

Since she was considering a 3-way with you and another girl they were correct in their assessment that your girl would consider such an offer. I don't see why you are shocked - she IS this type by your own admission!!!!!
 

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I'd be ticked off royally too. If nothing else, they didn't exactly treat her very nicely.

What will your position be in the future as far as hanging out with them is concerned?
 

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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
They obviously do not ask every girl - they must of saw something in your girl that led them to believe that she was the 'type' of girl that would consider this.

Since she was considering a 3-way with you and another girl they were correct in their assessment that your girl would consider such an offer. I don't see why you are shocked - she IS this type by your own admission!!!!!

So true.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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If they just propositioned her, it's really in her hands. Sounds like she's loyal enough not to mess around. But I too am surprised she didn't call you to come pick her up. In that case I would have come...or she could've called a cab.

Hopefully she'll be smart enough to not go to any more sex-parties with these people. If she does, she's either an idiot or her loyalty is suspect.

Now if they were PRESSURING her, you may want to call and have a serious talk with the people involved...letting them know that that kind of behavior won't stand and that if they do it again you may be forced to take legal and/or personal action. Just inviting her into sex is one thing...then it's up to her to say 'no' and if you're secure in her relationship with you then you shouldn't worry about it. If they were harassing her, you may need to step up into the defender role, cuz that sh!t ain't cool.

Some friends you guys got. :p
 

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Dont be angry. Anger will only eat you up and leave you less able to deal with it.

If she turned it down the other times she was asked, how did she turn it down? did it sound like she was cracking under the pressure to do it?

if so, something might be up.

look at cues in her behavior, when she called you on the phone, then again, she might be able to hide that.

she obviously told you for a reason. it may have been benevolant or maleveolant(good or bad). work out why she told you. therin lies your answer. was it just a "oh wow, those sicko's asked me again" or is it "hehe, you know they asked me again" then again, either of those situations could be a cover.

but dont sweat on it. she's still with you. dont make a big deal of it, just find out what she wants, and do it casually. dont reject anything she says though.

just dont let it get to you or hang over the relationships head if you want to keep her
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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DJ_Dork

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tell her to stay away from this psychos
 

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just be more wary this time. they were right when they had to 'scout' for the right type of girl to consider. and uh.. talk to your 'friends'. get them to respect you.
 
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