"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
They Only Want What's Worst For You
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Just like men constantly compare women's bodies, beauty and physical attributes, women compare a man's attributes as well.
A man like @bigneil may be stylistically arrogant to some, but there's an old saying...it ain't bragging if it's true. I find ballsy self confidence to be a very attractive trait...and I think both @fastlife and @bigneil display this, although the presentation is very different.
Hell I'm a woman and the thing I am most often complimented on is my allure. Allure on a woman is the feminine version of ballsy self confidence and it's a combination of "no give a sh1t", confidence, sex appeal and composure that you learn through loving yourself and actualuzing yourself.
Know thyself & love thyself. Never apologize for a life well lived.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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And sometimes they cannot admit that someone is greater than them even if deep down they know it is true.
Without a shred of observable evidence? Wait, this is you saying you think I believe you are greater than me? Get a full time job and lose your virginity first and then we'll talk.
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You don't get along with anyone, do you? You're incidentally right about one thing. No one likes an a$$hole, but everyone does have a certain amount of respect for an a$$hole who backs it up.
But you're just a 46 year old a$$hole living an alter-ego on the internet, claiming to be the original Don Juan with no demonstrable claim to this fame. No avatar, no website with a product or service, no pics - nothing.
So you're correct, most people in this thread will come out of it not liking you. But not because they're jealous of your success, because you're a lot of hot air in an empty barrel.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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Evidence isn't strictly concrete. A lot of it has to do with the mindset or 'vibe' you give off.
This is proving my point further. Because I'm expanding on what you said, you take it as a disagreement and consider that as a personal attack. So what do you do? You insult me based on your values; you place your entire value solely on how much money you make and how many girls you sleep with. To you, that is the only thing determining one's value and thus credibility. And because of this, you have absolutely no self-esteem, so your ego has to make up for it as we can clearly see through the posts above.
I get it. No one is going to give you a standing ovation for your success so you have to be your own biggest fan. But don't be like those die-hard sports fanatics who shove it down everyone's throats. The vast majority of people won't give a crap unless they have a reason to. And you doing that casts about your success in a negative light.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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I learned what you mean by "allure" through my sister. I have a question though. How well do you get along with other women?I must say to @fastlife whom I admire and who I think has a tremendous amount of wisdom that yes...women worth having are indeed going to measure men one against another...and fast food fry cooks are not going to come out well in that analysis UNLESS (and this is a BIG unless) there is ambition and drive and purpose behind being a fry cook (e.g. he's a fry cook aspiring to manager or franchisee)...
Just like men constantly compare women's bodies, beauty and physical attributes, women compare a man's attributes as well.
A man like @bigneil may be stylistically arrogant to some, but there's an old saying...it ain't bragging if it's true. I find ballsy self confidence to be a very attractive trait...and I think both @fastlife and @bigneil display this, although the presentation is very different.
Hell I'm a woman and the thing I am most often complimented on is my allure. Allure on a woman is the feminine version of ballsy self confidence and it's a combination of "no give a sh1t", confidence, sex appeal and composure that you learn through loving yourself and actualuzing yourself.
Know thyself & love thyself. Never apologize for a life well lived.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
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To answer your question @ImTheDoubleGreatest!
I get on very well with other women and have at least half a dozen very close girlfriends whom I have known between 10 and 30 years. This is in addition to my sisters, and my Dad's wife with whom I am also close. I have numerous female colleagues I help professionally when they need an ear to listen or when they ask for guidance. I have also have less tenured girlfriends who I respect, admire & enjoy. My female friends range in age from 30 to 80. I must say I am blessed.
I learned a long time ago that when as a woman you have sex appeal, you must temper it with grace & graciousness. You must also deeply respect boundaries of the women around you to the best of your ability. You must be genuine as a person.
Otherwise women distrust you because allure doesn't have an off switch. You do this by learning to read people's responses well. Modesty and appropriate behavior help a tremendous amount too.
Funny thing is that the more genuine you are the more allure you have...but it comes off in an authentic charming way.
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