She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
expensive gaming laptopAs you text this from an Obamaphone.
Bragging about your electronics?expensive gaming laptop
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
And sometimes they cannot admit that someone is greater than them even if deep down they know it is true.They will also believe it when it's true.
Without a shred of observable evidence? Wait, this is you saying you think I believe you are greater than me? Get a full time job and lose your virginity first and then we'll talk.And sometimes they cannot admit that someone is greater than them even if deep down they know it is true.
You don't get along with anyone, do you? You're incidentally right about one thing. No one likes an a$$hole, but everyone does have a certain amount of respect for an a$$hole who backs it up.Without a shred of observable evidence? Wait, this is you saying you think I believe you are greater than me? Get a full time job and lose your virginity first and then we'll talk.
Evidence isn't strictly concrete. A lot of it has to do with the mindset or 'vibe' you give off.Without a shred of observable evidence? Wait, this is you saying you think I believe you are greater than me? Get a full time job and lose your virginity first and then we'll talk.
I learned what you mean by "allure" through my sister. I have a question though. How well do you get along with other women?I must say to @fastlife whom I admire and who I think has a tremendous amount of wisdom that yes...women worth having are indeed going to measure men one against another...and fast food fry cooks are not going to come out well in that analysis UNLESS (and this is a BIG unless) there is ambition and drive and purpose behind being a fry cook (e.g. he's a fry cook aspiring to manager or franchisee)...
Just like men constantly compare women's bodies, beauty and physical attributes, women compare a man's attributes as well.
A man like @bigneil may be stylistically arrogant to some, but there's an old saying...it ain't bragging if it's true. I find ballsy self confidence to be a very attractive trait...and I think both @fastlife and @bigneil display this, although the presentation is very different.
Hell I'm a woman and the thing I am most often complimented on is my allure. Allure on a woman is the feminine version of ballsy self confidence and it's a combination of "no give a sh1t", confidence, sex appeal and composure that you learn through loving yourself and actualuzing yourself.
Know thyself & love thyself. Never apologize for a life well lived.![]()
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
To answer your question @ImTheDoubleGreatest!I learned what you mean by "allure" through my sister. I have a question though. How well do you get along with other women?