"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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They Dont Look Like Their Picture

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OK U all know the situation, U been seducing a chic online, seen all her lovely pics then comes the big meeting. U are ready to finally meet the hottie U been seducing in the virtual world of the internet.........then the closer you look at them the more you relize "THEY WERE A LOT CUTER ONLINE" some may even experience a weight gain of 30-200 lbs. Now WHAT.........U realize they were lying, they exagerated, or used a out-dated picture. Not the best way to start out. You should know that people try to put their best photo up to reap the most benefits,a glamour shot will be the best they ever looked, in reality they rarely live up to that picture. I mean why would anyone upload a bad picture. There are some PRO-ACTIVE approaches to avoid meeting someone that is not whU thought they were. Lets take a looksy at some scenarios.

A) PICTURE PERFECT-dont get all wrapped up on just one picture, realize that not everyone photographs well or looks exactly like their picture. Lets face it the stats reveal........(41% look similar, 49% look WORSE, only 10% look better in person). So be realistic, stop being so excited over superficial qualities, I found a lot of hotties tend to be shallow and lack substance.

SOLUTION:ask how recent that pic was taken, ask if anthing has changed since that pic was taken, have they lost or gained 200 lbs, ask for another picture, ask is that really, Beauty IS COMMON, what else that got.

B) BUDDA FACE-if they got lots of face pics but all the body pics are faded, out of foucs, cropped, tiny, etc odds are they are packing a few extra pounds.

SOLUTION-ask if they have any other pics, ask why no body pics-you would be surprised how many are honest. Take a closer look at their upper arms (are they fat n flabby), look how round tgheir face is, look at their height stats.

C)IS THIS YOU-not sure if it's even them, too good to be true.

SOLUTION: opt to take it to a web cam. It's hard to hide on live feeds.

D) NO PICTURE-there is a ton of reasons why no pictures a few are legit.

SOLUTION-ask them to send one to you privately, tell them to do it in a chat room, IM conversation, cell phone.

E) CSI THE PIC-to avoid meeting a fraud or undesireable, enlarge their picture, take a look at the background, why are they posing, notice details about things in the picture. Lots of people alter their picture in photo-shop or other digital enhancements, some look better in black and white, don't be fooled by them posing seductively on a bed or wearing skimpy bikini's this is to entice you. Do a comparison-put photos side by side, ask them questions about the photo (when was that taken, where, whats that in the background, which one is you, do U still look like that, whats changed since then). Your goal is to get an accurate rendition of what they look like today.

always remember certain people want to meet the hottie in that photo.........shallow, superficial YES but the physical attraction has to be there first.

So what do U do if YOU are not all that and a bag chips-some people just dont photograph well. U could opt to get a professional photographer or just do some basics (cropping, shadow effects, contrast, try black n white)> Your goal here is to take the attention off of your shortcomings.

-include you with friends, other women, actions shots, dark clothes, cool props in background. Lots of computer enhancements, pic trix to make U look aceptable.

-focus on your attributes in your profile. Write an amazing profile, design killer emails, sculpt your personality, develop your sense of humor, have solid phone game, find contentness with inner beauty.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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DJCorleone

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OR you could just turn off the computer and walk outside?
 

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ummm the title was called DO THY LOOK LIKE THEIR PICTURE.........assuming from the net. Tons of people score on the net.

Not sure your two word solution is condusive of advice or helpful. Verification is a reality now a days, authenticating saves time..........NUFF SAID
 

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So yeah, if a girl is trying to hide the way she looks for ANY reason. You should not be going out with her. Now, before I go on a date, I just ask her how much she wieghs-- straight up. If she is uncomfortable answering...she was a waste of time anyways.

My opinion has always been that real girls are way hotter than internet girls 99% of the time.
 

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Hmmm I think you should be mildly tactful of doing this. Maybe take a pic and send it to her in email, something she has not seen, and ask her to take one and send one to you. Make it seem natural and not like you are trying to dig up dirt on her, or see her real pic. Although look are almost everything online saying hey I want to make sure you are not some fatty before we meet on friday is not the best way to go,
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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FYI-there are tons of hot chics on line.......myspace is full of hot chics.

Saying a blanket statement chics who aint on the net are way hotter is just plain silly, and totally biased........have u been to all 1500 dating sites, all 200 social net working sites and looked at every female picture.

Nope not even in general..........

Pics are not everything but they are important.........and just cause a chic DOES NOT post a picture does not mean they are hiding something........not even the majority........more like the exception.

So now your wondering why no picture then.........what are some of those reasons............ok fine here is just a few reasons why no picture posted.......

1) They are famous-do not want the media to know they are dating on the net.

2) They are married-do not want their partner to know they are actively seeking.

3) Important job-company may frown upon employee’s being on certain dating sites, do not want co-workers, employer to know they are on a dating sight.

4) SHY-they may be on a controversial dating site & do not want their friends or family to know.

5) UNORGANIZED-they do not have a computer, scanner, web-cam, digital camera, cell-phone with cam or know anyone that does, they can’t afford one, have no recent, updated pictures have a crappy camera, don’t know how, etc.

6) INSECURE-this is where we here the cliché` “I do not photograph well”, look better in person, etc. People with low self-esteem are often too critical about how they look in pictures. They hate being photographed.

7) NOT SUPERFICIAL-they want to seek out individuals who chose them by substance, the content of their character rather then their photo.

8) HIDING SOMETHING-they may not want you to know their identity. They may be a Trans-sexual, posing as the opposite sex, pedophile, gay, secret agent, under-cover police task force, your ex, your relative, porn spammers, etc.

9) UNATTRACTIVE-sensitive about their weight, not happy with their looks, depressed or some other related phobia.

10) EXPERIMENT-these people want to create mystery, don’t want to rule themselves out by a picture so they prefer to share their photo privately. They might use character sketches or pictures extracted from the net, altered pics they photo-shopped, etc. This is used to arouse curiosity, build intrigue, anticipation, or suspense. They view the photo as a reward for good behavior or a possibility of a date by making you work for their picture. This creates a power-shift/control, establishes prizability.

11) UPTIGHT-these people are worried someone will steal their identity, or plaster their photo & destroy their reputation, etc.

12) BUSY-have not had time to upload any new pictures, new look or make-over and want to upload a recent photo.

13) REJECTEE-these people have self esteem issues and often create another profile to see if they can catch their dates virtual cheating or they create a new profile without a picture because they been banned from the site for violation of the rules and don’t wish to be caught.

14) NOT APPROVED YET-a lot of net dating sites like to screen out fake or sex-rated pics, so U may have to wait a few days before their picture gets approval.

15) UGLY-ya like about 9% of these dont want to post a pic due to low self esteem.
 

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Which, is why I meet women in real life situations. Not, myspace and ect. That way the girl can really see me for who I am and I can see her for who she is.
 

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Ummm The NET IS Real Life Situations........dude I know U think sargin is the way to go and for the most part I agree. But, lets face it internet, text messaging, technology in general IS NOT GOING AWAY.........its how we are quickly socializing.

TONS of E-dating books out there and TONS of hot women use the net that are in fact real. Do what ever you want, I didnt write the article for you. Hate to inform you but get this.........there are lots of guys that meet women from the net......lots and lots of women and some are .........are you ready.......smokin hot!!!
 

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Online dating is like searching for a job online. It's not going away.
 

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another tip... if a girl always shows her face on an angle or sideways chances are she has a wide fat face lol... pics are disgustingly decieving
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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i actually met a hott girl off the net before. no pics. guys were always hitting on her.

i've met only 1 really fat one. the rest were at least ok. on myspace & facebook, i'll believe a girl looks a certain way, when she has lots of candid pics with her friends. girls with blackberries, sidekicks, etc... are always u/l. so the time stamp is there.
 
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