"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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they don't look back at all. no second thoughts...

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this is another thing that's been playing on my mind... when you have the best conversation with a girl and suddenly she just leaves:

her: i better get going. bye.

i didn't even have the chance to say bye she hung up. she sounded so cold when she said bye. is this another female game thing? cause i don't play them. they really kill me girls... i'm happy and having the best time talking to them and then they go do something like that. :cuss:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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dude if you had a life you would not care about this at all, these girls you are talking to have A LIFE thats why they do that, they dont have time to talk to you ALL DAY LONG if you had a life you would understand this and put the phone down before they did and would not CARE.
 

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i didn't even have the chance to say bye she hung up. she sounded so cold when she said bye. is this another female game thing? cause i don't play them. they really kill me girls... i'm happy and having the best time talking to them and then they go do something like that
Yeah, sucks when that happens.

It's not really a "game" though. YOU were "happy and having the best time". SHE was -- most likely -- bored. That's why she hanged up.
 

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tony-montana said:
... when you have the best conversation with a girl and suddenly she just leaves:...
Question: How do you know the conversation was as good for her as it was for you? Besides it's just a conversation; rapport doesn't equate to interest.
 

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That is why the phone could be your greatest enemy. I bet you lost track on how long you were talking and she got bored.

Always keep phone conversations to an absolute minimum.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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well she was laughing and we both liked the same things... it's happened many times... you know the girl enjoys it but she can just leave the conversation so easy. i guess it's because if you're a hot girl you don't have to really care so much knowing you can get probably any guy in the world. so it's never a loss for them.
 

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Like people are saying to you, you are probably just talking for too damn long. I used to make the same mistake too man, and the same thing used to happen to me. Even if they enjoy talking to you a bit, if you drag it on and on and on, they are gonna have to hang up on you man. Keep it short and sweet. (At least until you've fkked them -- but, watch, then it's gonna be YOU who wants to get off the phone.)
 

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tony-montana said:
well she was laughing and we both liked the same things... it's happened many times... you know the girl enjoys it but she can just leave the conversation so easy. i guess it's because if you're a hot girl you don't have to really care so much knowing you can get probably any guy in the world. so it's never a loss for them.
Seems like you've answered your own question.

Although, the length of the conversation plays a part when building interest. You shouldn't cut off a conversation before fostering enough interest with a woman. If you do she will forget your name as soon as you get out of sight. You want her to want to see you again, not blowing you off as just another guy with obviously only one thing on your mind.
 
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