Purefilth
Master Don Juan
I really hate your circuit day man - ever since i tried it ooh man it sucked the big one! Did 4 rounds in about 20 minutes, I nearly puked!
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Me too man, many a time I've been laying on the couch afterwards for a good 20 min wondering whether I actually would or not...haven't yet lolPurefilth said:I really hate your circuit day man - ever since i tried it ooh man it sucked the big one! Did 4 rounds in about 20 minutes, I nearly puked!
Thanks, and it is lol, you should try it sometime just for kicksRiceandChicken said:Good work Stig. That circuit looks pretty dang rough.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Exactly. With the chains being about 50% lighter at the bottom, as you go up the weight is actively going up, which I think builds some explosiveness and might help the lock out, which carry over when not using chains. We only have 2 big chains at our gym, 20 lbs each, so when you're at the bottom, the weight is ~20 lbs lighter.Krueg said:Looks like a strong session for not feeling up to par, good work! Thanks man, might have pushed myself a bit too hard because I felt lightheaded and dizzy after almost every set, and sometimes my vision would fade a bit, but it is what it is, I feel alright now.
Havent personally used chains myself cause I don't think I'm at that point yet. How's the carry over to your regular bench? I'm guessing the weight is a little lighter at the bottom and heavier at the top?
Thanks Krueg, and yeah working on endurance and hypertrophy. Even though they're only 3 rep sets, I only rest about 30 sec between sets, and squeeze out every last drop of good form I have when it starts getting reaaaal tough (which is around the 3rd set).Krueg said:Nice volume on the deads! Working on speed on your back-off sets?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.