Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Agree, good work all around Stig.Purefilth said:Good hit bro.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Thanks man. And yes adding weight to dips and pullups is fvcking awesome, can't believe I just now started doing it. I can almost literally feel my triceps exploding and getting fvcking massive, it's already making a difference. Even if you don't have access to a weightbelt with a metal loop for a chain, or a chain, you can still hold the dumbbell between your legs.Purefilth said:Good work on the bench. If I get a spotter tomorrow I'm gonna go for another heavy one.
P.s. im still 1lb more
HEY GUESS WHAT - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RFZrzg62Zj0
lol jk
I'm gonna have to add dumbbells to dips too I think
Thanks dude. Really interesting about the dips/deadlifts. The only good belt at my gym (1 peice of thick leather) works just fine for adding wieght, but as I'm getting a smaller waistline, it provides less support, so I think I'm gonna just go out and buy my own. Yeah I'm not really worried about necessarily making my triceps huge, I just noticed that adding weight really worked em more. I just wanna do more weight. And hooooly sh1t a triple with 145? Fvck dude lolFuglydude said:Make sure you guys have a good weight belt that fits comfortably before doing weighted dips. I haven't done weighted dips in a long time, but found that having 110+ around your waist and doing dips between sets of DLs really helped to decompress the spine... Made deadlifting easier.
You'll be surprised how fast your weights on weighted dips will go up! My personal best was a triple w/ 145 lbs around my waist, going well below 90 degrees. I did this at around 180 lbs bodyweight.
I'd almost recommend against going to heavy if you really wanna focus on the triceps. When you get to 100 lbs or more its gonna be all available muscles to get you back up! Triceps are small muscles compared to your back/delts, etc... so they may not get as much recruitment... but at that point you probably don't care!
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
its mad that you and I seem to take the same rest days, I took two over the weekend too.:nervous:TheStig said:Today is Memorial Day and the gym is closed. I don't wanna take 3 rest days in a row so I'll have to figure out a circuit I can do here at home. I'm thinking it'll involve pullups on the tree, pushups, might bust out the ol jump rope....something like that.
Haha yeah I try to work out mon-fri and then take the weekend off. If I take the occasional mid week rest day then I make it up on Saturday. I did notice tomorrow is your chest day, and it's mine too lol.Purefilth said:its mad that you and I seem to take the same rest days, I took two over the weekend too.:nervous:
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.