You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Agree, good work all around Stig.Purefilth said:Good hit bro.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Thanks man. And yes adding weight to dips and pullups is fvcking awesome, can't believe I just now started doing it. I can almost literally feel my triceps exploding and getting fvcking massive, it's already making a difference. Even if you don't have access to a weightbelt with a metal loop for a chain, or a chain, you can still hold the dumbbell between your legs.Purefilth said:Good work on the bench. If I get a spotter tomorrow I'm gonna go for another heavy one.
P.s. im still 1lb more
HEY GUESS WHAT - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RFZrzg62Zj0
lol jk
I'm gonna have to add dumbbells to dips too I think
Thanks dude. Really interesting about the dips/deadlifts. The only good belt at my gym (1 peice of thick leather) works just fine for adding wieght, but as I'm getting a smaller waistline, it provides less support, so I think I'm gonna just go out and buy my own. Yeah I'm not really worried about necessarily making my triceps huge, I just noticed that adding weight really worked em more. I just wanna do more weight. And hooooly sh1t a triple with 145? Fvck dude lolFuglydude said:Make sure you guys have a good weight belt that fits comfortably before doing weighted dips. I haven't done weighted dips in a long time, but found that having 110+ around your waist and doing dips between sets of DLs really helped to decompress the spine... Made deadlifting easier.
You'll be surprised how fast your weights on weighted dips will go up! My personal best was a triple w/ 145 lbs around my waist, going well below 90 degrees. I did this at around 180 lbs bodyweight.
I'd almost recommend against going to heavy if you really wanna focus on the triceps. When you get to 100 lbs or more its gonna be all available muscles to get you back up! Triceps are small muscles compared to your back/delts, etc... so they may not get as much recruitment... but at that point you probably don't care!
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
its mad that you and I seem to take the same rest days, I took two over the weekend too.:nervous:TheStig said:Today is Memorial Day and the gym is closed. I don't wanna take 3 rest days in a row so I'll have to figure out a circuit I can do here at home. I'm thinking it'll involve pullups on the tree, pushups, might bust out the ol jump rope....something like that.
Haha yeah I try to work out mon-fri and then take the weekend off. If I take the occasional mid week rest day then I make it up on Saturday. I did notice tomorrow is your chest day, and it's mine too lol.Purefilth said:its mad that you and I seem to take the same rest days, I took two over the weekend too.:nervous:
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.