"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
These SIGNS don't mean anything, do they?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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I think for the benefit of each person here, the whole DJ thing should be JUST ABOUT getting your life together and making yourself a better person.Docs said:Haha......reality sucks eh?
No ANALYSIS of what women do should be given.
I blew it so many times because I looked at what she did and tried to think what it means.
Maybe some girls follow these trends, but I think most of the time its just a random thing. Its not a sign of anything at all.
How many times have you "blew it"? And what does "blew it" mean? You are confusing WHY a women does something instead of just looking at WHAT she did - big difference.Babnik said:I think for the benefit of each person here, the whole DJ thing should be JUST ABOUT getting your life together and making yourself a better person.
No ANALYSIS of what women do should be given.
I blew it so many times because I looked at what she did and tried to think what it means.
Maybe some girls follow these trends, but I think most of the time its just a random thing. Its not a sign of anything at all.
Where did you read that the entire basis for a women's interest level is their body language?
It sounds to me like you are using some black and white thinking there.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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anyways, women are not consistent with their body language, imho.
What happens from this is when you go out, you try to figure out every little thing about what she, you, surrounding, etc means. Your braind puts too much time into calculating the hundreds of little things going on, that you essentially can destroy your own chances with the girl.
I used to be guilty of doing this. I'll listen to the first word of her sentence and start running the index in my head of what to say next. Its counter productive... chill out, talk casually, keep a few basic stories/games to have fun with. Memorizing every opener/seduction/kino/C&F gambit isn't what this tries to teach. Its about taking some of the ideas and being them naturally. If it doesn't naturally occur, then you need to stay off the site a while.