"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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These SIGNS don't mean anything, do they?

Babnik

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Seriously...I got freaking conditioned by this site about things like "She crossed her arms and legs - she does not like you"

These things are STUPID. It doesn't mean anything!

Did anyone else figure that out?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Babnik

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Docs said:
Haha......reality sucks eh?
I think for the benefit of each person here, the whole DJ thing should be JUST ABOUT getting your life together and making yourself a better person.

No ANALYSIS of what women do should be given.

I blew it so many times because I looked at what she did and tried to think what it means.

Maybe some girls follow these trends, but I think most of the time its just a random thing. Its not a sign of anything at all.
 

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It is a problem I see a lot with guys on here.....

You THINK too much.
 

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Babnik said:
I think for the benefit of each person here, the whole DJ thing should be JUST ABOUT getting your life together and making yourself a better person.

No ANALYSIS of what women do should be given.

I blew it so many times because I looked at what she did and tried to think what it means.

Maybe some girls follow these trends, but I think most of the time its just a random thing. Its not a sign of anything at all.
How many times have you "blew it"? And what does "blew it" mean? You are confusing WHY a women does something instead of just looking at WHAT she did - big difference.

Where did you read that the entire basis for a women's interest level is their body language?

It sounds to me like you are using some black and white thinking there.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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A common issue with the seduction community is over thinking. People get too caught up in the concept that everything means something. People sit here, read hundreds of posts about things that potentially do mean something, and they try to take it all in and learn it all so they are masters at any situation.

What happens from this is when you go out, you try to figure out every little thing about what she, you, surrounding, etc means. Your braind puts too much time into calculating the hundreds of little things going on, that you essentially can destroy your own chances with the girl.

I used to be guilty of doing this. I'll listen to the first word of her sentence and start running the index in my head of what to say next. Its counter productive... chill out, talk casually, keep a few basic stories/games to have fun with. Memorizing every opener/seduction/kino/C&F gambit isn't what this tries to teach. Its about taking some of the ideas and being them naturally. If it doesn't naturally occur, then you need to stay off the site a while.
 
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