You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I think for the benefit of each person here, the whole DJ thing should be JUST ABOUT getting your life together and making yourself a better person.Docs said:Haha......reality sucks eh?
How many times have you "blew it"? And what does "blew it" mean? You are confusing WHY a women does something instead of just looking at WHAT she did - big difference.Babnik said:I think for the benefit of each person here, the whole DJ thing should be JUST ABOUT getting your life together and making yourself a better person.
No ANALYSIS of what women do should be given.
I blew it so many times because I looked at what she did and tried to think what it means.
Maybe some girls follow these trends, but I think most of the time its just a random thing. Its not a sign of anything at all.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.