"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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There Will Be...Gossip?

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I'm going to post this in here due to my age.

To start it off real original, there's this good looking girl that I know :p. She works with me, but I don't know her very well. I feel shes interested in me, but I can never really find a chance to go and talk to her, because we usually work in different sections, and she doesn't work as often as me. I usually see her a couple times a week, 3 times max. What to say to her isn't really a problem, but I just seem to never get the chance. Also, anyone at work that hears about any flirting going on, it spreads like wildfire, and everyone's on your case. It's not a big deal, but I just don't want a bunch of people to get nosy about my personal life. Soo, I really don't got a good grasp of how I should handle this situation, so any advice would be greatly appreciated!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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next time there's no customers or you're off duty

go up to her and say hi
and talk

people are going to find out eventually...people are naturally curious...people always slow down on the freeway when there's an accident...even a small one...they see a cop car pulled over tlaking to someone...they slow down...people ask questions

just gotta deal with it
 
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Everyone is eventually going to know everything that you ever do with anyone in your community. At least that's what I've seen in High School. You have to accept that, because its really not that big of a deal.
 
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No no no... Having them know is not the problem. I wouldn't care less if they knew, but if rumor goes around, the managers might get pissed. Last time someone hooked up with their coworkers, they got fired. And I'm not planning to lose my job anytime soon.
 
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Badladman said:
No no no... Having them know is not the problem. I wouldn't care less if they knew, but if rumor goes around, the managers might get pissed. Last time someone hooked up with their coworkers, they got fired. And I'm not planning to lose my job anytime soon.
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Well, life is about risk. Is this chick worth that risk that the managers might find out, get pissed, and possibly fire you?

It's up to you to decide that (which I think lies at the base of your question)!

For what to do, I agree, when you're off duty stop by if she's working strike up a conversation, she'll obviously know who you are so it shouldn't be a problem. Just apply C&F and be on your way.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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