It's obvious where your frame is at. I'd rather be rich and just buy women. Who the hell cares if women don't like you at that point? Lmao. You must be inexperienced to place women on such a high pedestal. Either that or you have some misguided need to be liked by women. You probably grew up as a hopeless romantic or had a single mom.Bull****. The world is littered with rich men who settle for scraps. If you're not getting anxiety then you're not pushing your comfort limits enough, simple as that. Ever gone for a hot daughter's number, cold approach in the street when the mother was right there, and had them both into it? I have, and yes, it made me nervous. Anyone can milk social circle game without anxiety, been there, done that too. Not everyone can build the social circle. If you can, good for you, but tooting your own horn and putting down others who are trying to learn a concrete, functional methodology to actually get there does nothing but stroke your own ego.
You're just another guy who passes by the 9 on the street without approaching her because *gasp* spitting a canned line is too "loserish", then you soak up the 6s at your friend's party later on in the weekend. Nothing wrong with that, other than your incredibly pretentious attitude about it towards everyone with potentially less fortuitous employment, genetics, or location. I guarantee you that I've been in easily 1000x more potentially life-threatening situations than you have, and have the scars to prove it, so spare me your "fires of life" ego stroke. Sober cold approach takes balls.
SF and even NYC is full of guys who make a ****load more money than you do, dominate their industries, and "live their (non-sexual) dreams"...but still can't get laid by anything over a 5 on the reg, and settle for a gold-digging 7. Say nothing of every small town between the two cities. In the geographical majority of the country it's simply not a realistic goal to sleep with lots of attractive women from social circle, at least after college.
I'm in the top quintile for income, have no trouble getting laid if I want to when I'm in a new city, which is every few weeks, and yes, I still get approach anxiety. No shame in that. I push through it and make it happen. I know plenty of guys who make more money than I do, and probably you as well, but can't pick up girls to save their life, because they let the anxiety dominate them and never learned a framework to build off - which PUA offers. It's not about running around in a velvet cap with pilot goggles on anymore, get with the program. Every piece of actionable advice here can be traced back to the game pioneers.
You care so much about female validation that you denounce rich men. It takes brilliance to reach that level. And at some point, you can just do whatever the hell you want. Buy an island and surround yourself with maid chicks. Money = you don't have to follow any rules.
I've done thousands of approaches...Back when I was 21. Now that I am 36, no amount of anything that has to do with women can actually push me internally. That's why I said "Anyone who thinks it takes balls to approach women is a boy." There's no lie in that. When I was a boy, I got over it . Now that I am a grown man, I realize how stupid and infantile my thinking was. After several successful businesses and climbing the corporate ladder and even being in the military, the thought "It takes balls to approach women" sounds completely ridiculous.
Maybe for a boy who is still inexperienced. But once you become a full grown dominant man who is actually successful (in all phases, including internal dominance), there is very little that women can do to make you nervous.
I used to live in SF. I knew plenty of guys who got laid. I knew one guy who volunteered at an art center and was constantly surrounded by chicks. He invited me to one of the events and I was blown away at how flirtatious the women were. I also have a lot of friends in NYC. The guys who live there tell me game is pointless because there are so many women pursuing you (provided you are a cool guy) that it's ridiculous. One guy simply walks around as an amateur photographer and women open him all the time. All he does is take pictures and hang out at coffee shops and gets 3-4 dates a week.
There, I just gave you two examples in supposedly hard cities of guys who get laid effortlessly. And all you did was give examples of how hard it seems. You provide incels as examples, and I provide cool guys as examples. It doesn't take a genius for people to figure out if me or you have the better frame.
You are projecting your own anxieties on to other people. And it amazes you that not everyone shares your anxieties.
While you get nervous, there are real life pimps out there who mentally dominate HOT women and turn them into money making wh0res.
There are true genuine guys who are so internally dominant that nothing about women touches them in any way. Do you see what I'm doing? For every example of a supplicating guy you give, I give an example of a truly dominant guy. Who the hell would take advice from you? You make interacting with women sound like going to war lmao.
You are so far down the ladder in terms of internal dominance that being unreactive to women sounds impossible to you.
And no, looking at other supplicating guys (no matter how rich they are), does not make it okay and excuse you. Fvck them. This is called COPING. They have nothing to do with you. You mentally have women on a pedestal and your internal value system is feminine. You base your self esteem on female validation. That's why you get nervous. Every approach you do is reaction seeking.
A guy who doesn't give a fvck about reactions doesn't get nervous. A guy who is self validated doesn't get nervous. It's clear you have a lot of inner game issues to work on. And yes, your inner game is still infantile.
Just because there are guys out there who somehow managed to become rich who still gets nervous around chicks doesn't excuse you for being a validation seeking reactive feminine guy.
Your frame is weak. Accept it and work on it and stop projecting it to other people and stop making excuses for yourself.
Sometimes I wonder if some of you boys would make it during the caveman days. Kill a sabretooth tiger but too nervous to escalate. LMAO. What part of that sentence makes any sense to you?
I used to actually teach PUAs in an entire city. You have no idea who you are talking to. I can smell a validation seeking frame 10,000 miles away, I can see right through your projections. Nothing you say is going to slip through my radar.
And right now, all you are projecting is "Women are goddesses. Even the greatest kings among us crumble in the presence of a beautiful woman." This is the frame of a guy who thinks approaching a two set is impressive. It's impressive to YOU because you have them on a pedestal. A cool guy with abundance would laugh at you.