"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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There is No Tomorrow

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Allow me to share my biggest regret in 25 years of dating beautiful women.

I tried to make plans with them in advance.

I never wanted to be that pushy guy that starts humping their leg and asking "what are you doing tonight, baby?"

But she's doing that guy tonight while I'm emailing about next Thursday.

For young women, strike when the iron is hot. Keep a cool distance, and then when they contact you, you need to be ready to make it happen on the spot. I don't care if it's Monday night and you have to work at 6AM and she gets off at 2AM. Serve her an omellette at 3AM.

With beautiful women, there is no tomorrow. It's fly by night.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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AND YOU ONLY GOT TODAY, MEN!

You wait to serve her an omelette, that's one day that an omelette went cold.

YOUR OMELETTE, COLD. DON'T ****ING WAIT.
 
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Good post. Mature men in the business world want to schedule an appointment two weeks in advance. Young women don't think that way.

I remember number closing a 21 yo in a club when I was 30. She texts me one week night at 10pm "Do you want to go to the beach?"

I was half asleep and wondered "Who the F goes to the beach at 10pm?". Then my thought changed to "Don't be stupid Mike. Go NOW.".

We ended up hooking up. So yes you MUST strike when the iron is hot.
 
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There was a dr. Phil show with a pua guy from nyc that has bagged 150+ women and that was one of his key points...be ready at all times because you will miss a lot of opportunities otherwise...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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f UCK that sh1t
 
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bigneil said:
Allow me to share my biggest regret in 25 years of dating beautiful women.

I tried to make plans with them in advance.

I never wanted to be that pushy guy that starts humping their leg and asking "what are you doing tonight, baby?"

But she's doing that guy tonight while I'm emailing about next Thursday.

For young women, strike when the iron is hot. Keep a cool distance, and then when they contact you, you need to be ready to make it happen on the spot. I don't care if it's Monday night and you have to work at 6AM and she gets off at 2AM. Serve her an omellette at 3AM.

With beautiful women, there is no tomorrow. It's fly by night.
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I have a problem with this. Why should the onus always be on the man to be on constant standby to "Strike while the iron is hot?"

Should I blow off plans with friends, family, or other prior commitments just because she happens to feel horny at the moment?

No wonder many women act so fickle. Plenty of guys are willing to be her d*ck-on-demand. Why bother being patient or, even more novel, maybe accommodate to the guy's schedule for once?
 
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sstype said:
I have a problem with this. Why should the onus always be on the man to be on constant standby to "Strike while the iron is hot?"

Should I blow off plans with friends, family, or other prior commitments just because she happens to feel horny at the moment?

No wonder many women act so fickle. Plenty of guys are willing to be her d*ck-on-demand. Why bother being patient or, even more novel, maybe accommodate to the guy's schedule for once?
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I have to agree with this. While it's true that I've probably missed out on a few bangs just because I wouldn't go out at 11pm on a Wednesday when I work at 7am the next day, but I'd rather be in control of my life than be like some guys I know who have women literally running their lives because they're such slaves to the vagina.
 
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obviously if you have prior commitments you don't break them. but i think the point is well taken: when you don't have a reason to postpone, and conforming to traditionalist dating rules is not a valid reason, then you should absolutely seize the moment.
 
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NO! if your desperate to bust a nut or empty your balls, go for it, personally I cant be ar$ed. but then Im older. you young guys can be the marrionettes for these free hookers
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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betheman said:
NO! if your desperate to bust a nut or empty your balls, go for it, personally I cant be ar$ed. but then Im older. you young guys can be the marrionettes for these free hookers
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Early on we need to get them addicted to us by accommodating their schedule, IMO.

Alcohol plays a huge role and often they write to us when they are hot and horny. Blow them off then and they are texting the next-most Alpha guy in the list.

Face it, the only way modern women get to know you when they are straight is when they wake up next to you the next morning.
 
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I can understand both sides of this argument. Certainly you can't let women rule your life or affect your job.

But given the fierce competition out there since the next sausage is only a text message away, if you want to score or score with a particular chick, you have to jump on the opportunity. The first opportunity with a chick these days is make or break. The often don't give you a second chance. Plus you really aren't fully on her radar screen until after you've b@nged her.
 
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By being available whenever they want you to be, you're giving the girl all of the power! That's not what a Don John would do.
 
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