She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
can you elaborate on this last part?comic_relief said:correct, I know a couple of girls that I do not believe would cheat on their man at all. I also know a couple of women that would cheat at the drop of a hat (two are really good friends of mine that I go out with).
I love how everyone always uses blanket statements for the entire female population on this website.
How about this, some girls cheat, others won't.
I remember that I would always attract the crazy girls a while ago and could not find anybody that I was really attracted to. I realized that the single denominator in every relationship that I got into was myself. I simply changed the response of my reactions and now I am in a good relationship that is not crazy.
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You have a good poin there Donky....DannykDJ said:You guys need to get off this whole "women are the reason we can't have nice things" bandwagon.
The women are not the problem, you can find just as many men who are cheaters and liars. The problem isn't the women it's you guys as individuals.
If someone cheats on you it's YOUR fault not theirs. Cheaters are gonna cheat no matter what.
-You chose the person in the first place
-You ignored the red flags and they are always there
-You didn't put her in her place for those behaviors and walk away.
-You chose not to constantly improve yourself so you are clearly better
than the other guy.
If you meet a woman at a club and she is grinding your nuts while she introduces herself then thats a red flag for cheating.
If you enter a long term relationship with a girl you have sex with her withing the first few weeks thats a red flag whether you believe it or not.
If she is still in contact with her ex or flirts with other guys while dating you thats a red flag for a future cheater.
If the womans idea of a good time is going to clubs and bars every weekend and getting completely trashed thats a red flag for a future cheater.
The list goes on and on, but the point is that it's not just the womens fault. Men are just as bad. Go to loveshack and read the countless threads of women who were faithful and their bfs and husbands cheated on them. It works both ways for both men and women.
The problem lies with the individual because as someone already stated you attract the qualities that you to possess. Be honest did you really think the drunk girl you met at a club was "the one"? The individual chose to ignore blatantly bad qualities.
This is where the whole idea of qualifying women came from. Women have been doing it since the beginning of the species and 99% of men still don't do it. They believe it's better to have someone who disrespects them than to have no one at all.
There are plenty of women who would love nothing more than to have a man they could trust and devote themselves to and they would never even think of cheating. She may not be the hot blond 10 of your dreams, but again it's your life and it's always your choice.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Ahh those good ol Millersville women... they're like nuns compared to the many WCU slags I've been involved with over the years. :crackup:comic_relief said:I also know a couple of women that would cheat at the drop of a hat (two are really good friends of mine that I go out with).
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