"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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There is hope for a strictly friends relationship!

oda

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I am 19, I goto community college so I live at home. I have a friend HBLeanne. I've known her since forever, dated her older sister once and am friends with her brother. About a year ago, around this very time I was trying to get with her, she is very beautiful in every way. The last time I tried to get with her I beleive this is how things went:

Me: going in for the kiss.
Her: pulling away "oda, you are like a brother to me, i have to go"
Me: d'oh!

So, since then I've basically been a slight friend, semi-helpin her relationships, always being c+f about it. But the most important thing was going to community college. I met a whole crowd of new beautiful women. I've had some sucess with them, and Leanne gets to hear about it because we are friends. So lately Leanne has been paying an immense amount of attention to me, I'm guessing she wants to keep me as close as possible. Last night she offered to be my DD, we went out to hang with some of my friends, and it just so happened a friend from one of my classes was there, he kept going on and on about how he couldn't beleive i was talking to HB9 at college, couldn't figure out how I got her. The whole while Leanne's eyes are lighting up. She can't beleive that outside of our relationship I have a chance with beautiful women.

So to wrap it up Leanne kept kissing me on the lips, and massaging my sides all night. I never once asked her why, why she was doing it, why she changed, or why things werent like this always, and maybe that is the key to rekindling a lost chance. Don't talk about it (i feel like they are majorly turned off by it and if you talk about it it will remind them of why they WOULDNT want to) instead you should just subliminally show them why they HAVE TO, to get the PRIZE they are missing out on.

Good theory?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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She's into you because you've moved up in the social ladder in her eyes.

Yeah, don't talk about it. That's generally a dumb idea.

I would cut off all interaction with her for 7-10 days. At worst, she'll continue to think you're attractive; at best, she'll be even more into you when she sees you again. Let her be the one to make a further move.

Meanwhile, keep dating other girls.
 

Bonhomme

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That's exactly it!

She's into you because you've moved up in the social ladder in her eyes.

Yeah, don't talk about it.
That's all there is to it. All you need to do is keep doing what you've been doing as of late. The less thought and effort you give it, the better. Effortlessness goes right in hand with attractiveness.
 

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we need more threads like these.

good post, oda.:cool:
 

jakethasnake

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awesome!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Jariel

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Good post indeed! I agree with everything that has been said so far. Not only have you shown your social value and value to other women, but the fear of losing you has increased your personal value to her.

You made a very valid point about not asking what was going on. Talking about it is always a big mistake and it does seem to turn women off.
 
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