"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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There are three types of girls in my life

Demystify

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Girl 1) She can't stand me, thinks I'm annoying, way too awkward (and not in an attractive way), or she fines me plain ugly and boring, etc. I tend to move on away from this girl.

Girl 2) She thinks I'm a nice guy but isn't interested in a relationship/dating/sex if I try to pursue it. Since she thinks I'm a nice guy, I'm assuming she thinks that I couldn't get a girl on my own so she decides to hook me up with one of her fat, gross and unattractive friends.

Girl 3) The gross/fat/unattractive girl that perpetually bothers me and trys calling me cute nicknames because she thinks that'll somehow better my chances with her.


Now I'm assuming Girl 1 isn't the one to go for since she always give me IODs and makes it clear that she can't stand me. Girl 2 would be nice but trying to go for her is hard when she thinks I'm too much of a nice guy and has this gross fatty friend that she is always trying to hook me up with. Girl 3 I try to avoid like the plague.

Any advice?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Get the hell away from that trio of death. Your situation is where boners go to die. Meet other women and cut the dead weight loose like a cancerous tumor.
 

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Telos said:
Get the hell away from that trio of death. Your situation is where boners go to die. Meet other women and cut the dead weight loose like a cancerous tumor.
No, what I'm saying is that whenever I meet a woman she's immediately in one of these three categories, no matter where I go.
 

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Demystify said:
No, what I'm saying is that whenever I meet a woman she's immediately in one of these three categories, no matter where I go.
how old are you and are in school still?

If you are in school, then go into the foreign exchange program. The problem that I see that you have is that you do not have any real life experiences.

Go traveling and learn to relax. Don't take everything so seriously (especially life because you won't make it out alive).

comic_relief
 

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comic_relief said:
how old are you and are in school still?

If you are in school, then go into the foreign exchange program. The problem that I see that you have is that you do not have any real life experiences.

Go traveling and learn to relax. Don't take everything so seriously (especially life because you won't make it out alive).

comic_relief
I'm 22 and still in college because I'm switching majors. I guess studying abroad is an option but the one time I did leave the country I had a pretty depressing time. The guy and girl I went with ended up hooking up and I went home depressed.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Get out and meet other people, not just women. Make some friends and get better at socalizing. Go placed where people hang out doing things that interest you and just hang with them. If you go do things with them and people start hooking up, well move on. no need to get depressed you just need to become more interesting and confident yourself. The reason you get girl type 1 or 2 is because you act like girl #3. I have had similar issues in the past. You need to work through it by getting other hobbies, interest, friends, etc.
 

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have you stepped up every level of your game?

Hit the gym. Get in shape. Gain muscle if you need to. Loose fat if you need to.

Make sure you are dressed as well as possible every day. Buy new clothes. dress like the true players (djs) in your area dress. Make sure your shoes are always well taken care of.

Make sure you are well groomed. Hair cut, faical hair, body odor. Decent colonge (not that cheap ass axe body spray bullsh!t)


Thats the basics....do you have that down yet?

after you sort the basics then start meeting people in other social groups, in other circles. its college...mix it up.

Get some swaggar. Some arrogance. Some spine. This is why you are getting what you get. You have no danger. You don't project confidence.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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