"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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There are three types of girls in my life

Demystify

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Girl 1) She can't stand me, thinks I'm annoying, way too awkward (and not in an attractive way), or she fines me plain ugly and boring, etc. I tend to move on away from this girl.

Girl 2) She thinks I'm a nice guy but isn't interested in a relationship/dating/sex if I try to pursue it. Since she thinks I'm a nice guy, I'm assuming she thinks that I couldn't get a girl on my own so she decides to hook me up with one of her fat, gross and unattractive friends.

Girl 3) The gross/fat/unattractive girl that perpetually bothers me and trys calling me cute nicknames because she thinks that'll somehow better my chances with her.


Now I'm assuming Girl 1 isn't the one to go for since she always give me IODs and makes it clear that she can't stand me. Girl 2 would be nice but trying to go for her is hard when she thinks I'm too much of a nice guy and has this gross fatty friend that she is always trying to hook me up with. Girl 3 I try to avoid like the plague.

Any advice?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Telos

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Get the hell away from that trio of death. Your situation is where boners go to die. Meet other women and cut the dead weight loose like a cancerous tumor.
 

Demystify

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Telos said:
Get the hell away from that trio of death. Your situation is where boners go to die. Meet other women and cut the dead weight loose like a cancerous tumor.
No, what I'm saying is that whenever I meet a woman she's immediately in one of these three categories, no matter where I go.
 

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Demystify said:
No, what I'm saying is that whenever I meet a woman she's immediately in one of these three categories, no matter where I go.
how old are you and are in school still?

If you are in school, then go into the foreign exchange program. The problem that I see that you have is that you do not have any real life experiences.

Go traveling and learn to relax. Don't take everything so seriously (especially life because you won't make it out alive).

comic_relief
 

Demystify

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comic_relief said:
how old are you and are in school still?

If you are in school, then go into the foreign exchange program. The problem that I see that you have is that you do not have any real life experiences.

Go traveling and learn to relax. Don't take everything so seriously (especially life because you won't make it out alive).

comic_relief
I'm 22 and still in college because I'm switching majors. I guess studying abroad is an option but the one time I did leave the country I had a pretty depressing time. The guy and girl I went with ended up hooking up and I went home depressed.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Get out and meet other people, not just women. Make some friends and get better at socalizing. Go placed where people hang out doing things that interest you and just hang with them. If you go do things with them and people start hooking up, well move on. no need to get depressed you just need to become more interesting and confident yourself. The reason you get girl type 1 or 2 is because you act like girl #3. I have had similar issues in the past. You need to work through it by getting other hobbies, interest, friends, etc.
 

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have you stepped up every level of your game?

Hit the gym. Get in shape. Gain muscle if you need to. Loose fat if you need to.

Make sure you are dressed as well as possible every day. Buy new clothes. dress like the true players (djs) in your area dress. Make sure your shoes are always well taken care of.

Make sure you are well groomed. Hair cut, faical hair, body odor. Decent colonge (not that cheap ass axe body spray bullsh!t)


Thats the basics....do you have that down yet?

after you sort the basics then start meeting people in other social groups, in other circles. its college...mix it up.

Get some swaggar. Some arrogance. Some spine. This is why you are getting what you get. You have no danger. You don't project confidence.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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