Theoretical Interest: Are girls using their brains when playing hot-cold?

[TheSlasher]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=2144414#post2144414

I got wondering about that question from this post above.

Now, I'm wondering, do women really know what they're doing or are they simply acting these things out of pure emotion or intuition maybe? Or perhaps, their strategic thinking about the matters of getting attention, or getting the guy they like to chase them, something that was developed over years of practice and trial-and-error? I want to know the why of it, the how, etc.

I really got curious about it all of a sudden.

Anyway, thanks for replying.

 

[El Payaso]

Those b!tches know exactly what they're doing. Not all women are like this though. Those types of women just want validation from you that you want to date them or fvck them. Once they have that, they go cold. From henceforth, they will go hot and cold to try and keep you on their leash.

It is up to a man to eject once he notices a woman playing hot or cold. Don't discuss her actions with her, don't rationalize with her. Just delete her from your life and move on to other women that will actually reciprocate your interest.

She will try to contact you to see if she still has you on her leash but do not respond.

 

[DonGorgon]

Those b!tches know exactly what they're doing. Not all women are like this though. Those types of women just want validation from you that you want to date them or fvck them. Once they have that, they go cold. From henceforth, they will go hot and cold to try and keep you on their leash.

It is up to a man to eject once he notices a woman playing hot or cold. Don't discuss her actions with her, don't rationalize with her. Just delete her from your life and move on to other women that will actually reciprocate your interest.

She will try to contact you to see if she still has you on her leash but do not respond.

very interesting topic and i am going though this now... i think that 99% of the time they are spanning plates and shifting priority among all the different men they are Fing... so as one makes her mad or bored she get closes too another guy until he makes her mad or bored and so on..

 

[TheSlasher]

Those b!tches know exactly what they're doing. Not all women are like this though. Those types of women just want validation from you that you want to date them or fvck them. Once they have that, they go cold. From henceforth, they will go hot and cold to try and keep you on their leash.

It is up to a man to eject once he notices a woman playing hot or cold. Don't discuss her actions with her, don't rationalize with her. Just delete her from your life and move on to other women that will actually reciprocate your interest.

She will try to contact you to see if she still has you on her leash but do not respond.

But I've also read somewhere that not everything a woman does is meant to spite us. That surprisingly, women also have sh*t to do. I dunno. I mean, I could just go ask these women out every now and then. It's not like I'm texting them 24/7, more like once in more than two weeks or so. Hehe.

 

[bukowski_merit]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=2144414#post2144414

Now, I'm wondering, do women really know what they're doing or are they simply acting these things out of pure emotion or intuition maybe?

It's hard to put it as simple as yes or no. Women will do some things totally aware they're doing it and some things instinctively (a sh!t test is normally something she's unaware of but sometimes will be conscious of it).

I wouldn't get caught up in this too much; it's better to just let the actions determine her place in your life. But let's see....

In the example you link - the cold sore excuse is a clear indication of low interest. And that’s the most important thing! If it was the truth - why would you advertise it to a guy you were interested in? If it's not the truth - why would you pick such a disgusting excuse? (other than not caring)

In my opinion - most women are cognitive dissonance machines! Meaning - they don't really know why they're making decisions a lot of the time; they simply make the decision then figure out why through some form of (il)logic (this is why it's always better to judge on action instead of words). Same thing most PEOPLE do when shopping.

Just last week - a girl calls me at midnight. I answer, I'm expecting her to want to ask to come over for a late night booty call. When I ask her if she's coming over, she hesitates, then says "I don't know how to get there from here." I remind her of the existence of GPS. 3-4 other excuses follow (i have no idea why she actually called me.) She made the decision on not coming over to my house off of some emotional madness in her brain. Then (il)logically started coming up with reasons - aka: excuses.

I don't believe that's something most women do on a conscious level.

Sometimes it is done with total consciousness though. I just don't think there's any way to know unless it's painfully obvious.

Or perhaps, their strategic thinking about the matters of getting attention, or getting the guy they like to chase them, something that was developed over years of practice and trial-and-error?

Most tests are done without consicousness of them. But, she could also be trying things out to get you to chase.... Like:

She could have read it in cosmo ("the secret to finding out just how much the man you're talking to really likes you with these 10 questions" etc.)

She could have got "advice" from one of her female friends or beta orbitors (most men underestimate the amount of "game sharing" women do among each other. I've even overheard mothers telling daughters how to manipulate men into doing things like: take out the trash.)

She could have read that stupid "he's just not into you" book. Which if she ever reads while talking to one of us - she'll instantly think we aren't into her at all.

Or she could be using her scrambled egg head to come up with her own ideas. :crazy: :crazy: (this will normally be apparent by the simpleness of it; followed by a sly grin on her face when you call her out on it.)


Note: When messing with younger girls (18-21) - I do notice very clear signs of actively trying to manipulate to get their way/play games to make chase, etc. I dated a very hot 18 year old briefly last year. And her attempts to get her way/make me chase were comical and definitely happening on a conscious level... I used to tell her "Step your game up girl. You suck at this" on a regular bases. And that stupid ('he caught me') grin would find it's way to her face...

She got the last laugh though....

 

[TheSlasher]

Wow. El Payaso, DonGorgon, and bukowski_merit all have varying opinions on this. Although I personally like bukowski's answers a little because it is dispassionate while at the same time, being backed by experience, hence, it sounds closer to reality and with less bias.

However, I'm getting the idea that this one is something really hard to figure out by one's experience alone. Guys in this forum have figured things out before, so I believe that we can understand this one, too.

Thanks a lot again guys. Looking forward to more insights.

 

[bukowski_merit]

Wow. El Payaso, DonGorgon, and bukowski_merit all have varying opinions on this. Although I personally like bukowski's answers a little because it is dispassionate while at the same time, being backed by experience, hence, it sounds closer to reality and with less bias.

However, I'm getting the idea that this one is something really hard to figure out by one's experience alone. Guys in this forum have figured things out before, so I believe that we can understand this one, too.

Thanks a lot again guys. Looking forward to more insights.

I think it's largely about how you view women. I have a fairly optimistic view on why they do what they do (and I've seen the darkest side of women.) <- Wow first time I've read that in a long time - I'm a prophet! Everything I said here came 100% true! PSS: I don't fvck taken women anymore; nor do I engage in relationships anymore. Funny how 5 years can change a mans dating habits so much.

I don't think this issue is big though. At the end of the day - I think we all agree that it's more important how she's treating you then why (although knowing "why" can help keep her from treating you bad in the first place.)

 

[TheSlasher]

although knowing "why" can help keep her from treating you bad in the first place

Actually, this is one of the reasons why I'm interested in figurong this out. Although what brought me here really is just the curiosity. Also, I realized that whatever we have figured out here might have the possibility to be a foundation for devising a well-honed screening strategy on whether to next, to persist, or to be patient.

 

[VikingKing]

They are using their emotions. Women are prone to be emotionally driven, if they are natural. Some times they do it to be a b!tch, they know exactly what they are doing.

But ones that have had a lower number of sexual partners, still kind of innocent, they are just naturally doing it to test you.

Men are more prone to be logical, if they are natural.

It's not that complicated.

Western women are fvcked up, not good for ltr or serious relationship.

 

[GotED?]

'Women are like a box of chocolates - you never know what you get' - Dumb Gump


Experience determines the amount of suffering a man will go through with a woman who blows hot & cold. There are as many good people in this world, as bad people. Women are no different - some are conditioned and raised (spoiled princesses by parents) to grow up to be emotionally and mentally immature well into their 30's or even 40's. While some women are naturally down-to-earth and are trustworthy.

It is up to your experience as a man (not your other PEE brain - no pun intended) to filter out what is a waste of time and what is not.

Unfortunately most men have such low-self esteem and low-self image of themselves, they will get on their knees and worship any women that is above their station (pedestal her). It is sad to see men who still can not seem themselves as the PRIZE, and will ALLOW women to dump bullsh!t onto him just because she's hot.

This is the downfall of human behavior - men put up with more crap the more beautiful the woman is. Learn to walk away at any disrespect (blowing hot & cold) - but you can't do this until you HAVE BEEN WITH HOT WOMEN who are worth sh!t in personality, and you finally realize what a waste of time it is chasing after 100% hot looks.

When you have your DJ game at top notch, women are ABUNDANT EVERYWHERE - it is no great loss to tell her to kiss your ass goodbye when she plays games because there's always another great looking b!tch around the corner coming soon.

Be well.

Exodus

 

[nismo-4]

They are.

When a woman does this to me, she is instantly dropped. I've no time or tolerance for female bullsh*t.